Morning, I've posted a few times about my abusive ex (largely verbally and emotionally) and have received some great replies - thank you so, so much.
Now getting ready to LTB and take kids with me (Both DDs under 2). Will speak to a solicitor today, but I don't know what to request in terms of his access to the children.
He has increasingly demonstrated what I believe to be irresponsible / unnecessarily aggressive behaviour towards them. Some examples I can think of:
- He left DD1 (19 months) in the bath to chuck a smelly nappy out downstairs. I rushed in to her obviously (and have never let him bath the DDs alone since) but he accused me of being paranoid and ridiculous for not leaving her "for a minute or two"
- DD2 (7 mths) was crying during teething (she is an angel baby and rarely cries) and he picked her up and marched her upstairs, put her in her cot and shut the door as she "has to learn". I pointed out she may need milk and teething gel and a cuddle and he said I was too soft on these kids.
- He told me to just leave DDs unsupervised in the garden while I watch "from inside the house"
- He thinks it is acceptable to let DD2 roll around unsupervised, near radiators and the tiled hearth. I don't allow this obviously, but again I just get accused of wrapping them in cotton wool.
- He put our DD1 on the naughty step yesterday because when he told her to stop running in the hallway, she didn't. Then at dinner she squeezed two drops of milk from her bottle teat on to the table and he slammed his hand down hard on the table and yelled "NO!" at her. I said there was no need to do that as she really hadn't done anything wrong and he said she needs discipline as she is starting to get naughty now (She isn't, she is as good as gold).
AIBU to want supervised access for now (maybe at least until they are older)?
I want him to see his girls but I know deep down he wouldn't cope on his own with them. Sorry for long post!!