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To be really fucking pissed off

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Abbinob · 29/05/2016 00:04

Had an argument with dp earlier, haven't really spoken all day.
Was mainly about the fact that I'm the only person who ever wakes up with the toddler at night (he's 2 but an awful sleeper) because he pretends not to hear him and I'd rather do it myself half the time because dp just gets in a mood.

He asked if I needed any work stuff washing for tomorrow, I said yeah and put my uniform in the pile with his stuff. He fucking took my stuff out the pile and put it back in the washing basket and I only just realised when I went to put the stuff in the dryer just now.
Is he fucking 5 years old.
I have to be up for work at 5am and now have to wait an hour for the washing machine to finish.
FFS Sad

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AgentZigzag · 29/05/2016 00:17

Was it a genuine accident or are you saying he asked you and then deliberately didn't put your uniform in because you'd had an argument earlier?

Isn't there a quick wash cycle on your machine?

And why are you waiting up for the wash to finish when you've got to be up for work at a ridiculously early hour and he was the one who fucked up??

Queenbean · 29/05/2016 00:19

He sounds like an utter arse. It's midnight and you have to be up in 5 hours. What a dick. Is he always like this?

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Abbinob · 29/05/2016 00:27

Yeah it does have a quick cycle but it's a nasty polyestery shop uniform so I'd stink Blush
I can't see how it was an accident, he asked if I had any washing I need to do, I said yes and put my stuff in the pile with his stuff, literally right in top of his stuff and his ended up in the machine and mine buried in the washing basket.
Lucky I noticed when putting (HIS) stuff in the dryer or I'd have been fucked.

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Abbinob · 29/05/2016 00:31

I asked him (calmly, not having a go) why he did that and now he's stormed off to sleep on the sofa without saying a word Hmm
Why he thinks I care if he sleeps on the sofa is beyond me, I'll happily starfish myself in the bed in peace away from his wanker aura if he wants to be like that

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IsItIorAreTheOthersCrazy · 29/05/2016 00:35

He is an arse. If you haven't already, take his clothes out of the dryer and leave them sitting there, wet and horrible. And please ensure he is woken when you get up in the morning.

Obviously you will have to talk, but he's being a complete dickhead - PA with the washing and then childish with the storming off to the sofa

AgentZigzag · 29/05/2016 00:37

What kind of a person would do that though? Make you think they'd done something important then deliberately not do it?

Has he done it because you'd tried to talk to him about 'not hearing' your DC in the night and he's making sure you never bring the subject up again?

TheDuchyOfGrandFenwick · 29/05/2016 00:41

Yanbu.What a horrible thing to do, I'd be really upset.

AgentZigzag · 29/05/2016 00:41

I'd go so far as chucking his soggy clothes out into the garden IsItlor.

Back garden if I was feeling charitable, front garden if I was bladdered wasn't and didn't mind airing his dirty laundry in front of all the neighbours Grin

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Abbinob · 29/05/2016 00:42

He can be a real dickhead at times but usually more of a thoughtless dickhead than a purposely trying to be a dick head type dickhead. He's been a childish twat all day because I told him he needs to sort his temper out so he hasn't spoken to me all day. I didn't really speak to him either tbf but he does this everytime, wants to just not talk about what I've brought up and if I don't drop it he sulks and dowant speak to me or gets in a massive mood

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Iknownuffink · 29/05/2016 00:57

Dump every thing he gets grumpy about back to him.
Repeat.
Repeat.
Repeat.

Go against your better nature and take the huff.

Slam doors if necessary.

My DP did not like it when I mirrored his childishness. He has since stepped up to the mark.

VimFuego101 · 29/05/2016 00:59

YANBU, what a knob. I'd stop his wash half way through or stop the dryer so he had wet clothes in the morning.

Valentine2 · 29/05/2016 01:02

Mirror it. I would leave his clothes out of the dryer. Actually if you have dried them already, do take them out and put them in the washing machine again so he finds them wet in the morning.
I have found that if you start doing the mirror, the decent guys correct their ways.

Pritti7 · 29/05/2016 01:17

he did it intentionally for sure!!

Have you both had an argument recently? is he upset about something?

I have noticed that HB and i snap at each other when there are some underlying issues.

If there is nothing and he is just being a pain to troube you then I am sure he relies on you for many things, that if you retract would be a lesson enough for him instead of you having to get wound up and stressed out. Perhaps he needs a taste of his own medicine.

Pritti7 · 29/05/2016 01:18

oops i meant DH and I

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Abbinob · 29/05/2016 12:42

Well he did atleast say sorry this morning and made me tea so I think he's got over his little strop

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Birdsgottafly · 29/05/2016 12:45

Don't do the PA and slamming door thing, though, it's no way for a child to have to live.

You need to sort this out properly, before your child is any older.

Brainnotbrawn · 29/05/2016 12:45

He behaved like a thoughtless utter knob. If he is always like this I would seek counselling to try to improve the situation now because in time I would have to leave a bastard like that.

If it was a rarity I would leave it go. We can all be dicks at time.

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