To want to move because I hate my neighbours?

[mumtomaxwell]

We got off to a bad start... They moved in 6 months ago and had a couple of late night parties. The second one upset all the neighbours because of teenagers outside swearing and v loud music. They apologised and assured us they are "decent people". Her words, not mine!
There have been a few minor issues since - more loud music, inconsiderate parking etc - but nothing terribly wrong. I just hate them with a passion that frightens me!
I dread coming home, and I hate weekends because their windows are open and the music is blaring. Right now they're outside shouting at each other and swearing. They're just so loud and inconsiderate. I don't want to go in my garden or my conservatory because all I can hear is them.
I love my house, I just hate the people next door! They're renting at the moment but have the option to buy and the thought of that makes me feel ill. My DH thinks it's better the devil we know - after all we could end up living next to properly bad neighbours. WWYD?

We think our neighbours have received their eviction notice because yesterday evening he was going nuts shouting "fucking neighbours you fucking cunts complaining about us, you fucking think we're noisy I'll show you fucking noisy" and so last night the music went on louder than ever until 5am! Then there was the arguing then the sex session....I can't wait for them to go!

Our elderly neighbour had a problem with the flat above her years ago
She would ring me in tears
I found out the number of the private LL and telephoned them every time day or night she was disturbed much to their annoyance 2am 6am etc
Lovely lady our neighbour
He moved out soon after

Most of you will probably live in places where there is a community mediation service.

It'll be free, confidential, and fast. And it can work miracles with neighbour problems, but of course isn't a guaranteed outcome.

my heart goes out to you all as I sit in rural neighbour-free bliss

Well my problems seem futile compared to some of you on this thread. We bought our house just before Xmas. Obviously mid winter so no one about.

Around the end of Feb a new family moved into the house around the corner. The bottom of their back garden almost touches the bottom of ours except for a cycle path between.

They are so noisy. They gave 2 dogs. One Jack Russell that just barks endless. The other is a little yappy thing with a broken bark that's like a high pitched squeak. Anyway this family live with all their windows and doors open. All we hear is their dogs barking on and on and on. It's the first thing I hear in the morning (and my bedroom is at the front of my house) and the last thing I hear at night. They do pause here and there but generally the gigs bark for a couple of an hours at a time 5 orv6 hours a day. Now it's summer they've taken to tieing them in the garden when they go out and all they do is bark and bark and bark. They then set off other dogs in the neighbourhood that probably I would never notice but now I've become so pissed off with dogs barking I notice it instantly. I find myself sitting in my house with the windows shut and radio on just to block it out.

I got home the other day thinking I would sit in thegarden for an hour or so. I didn't get as far as my front door before getting in my car and going to the pub for tea because the bloody dogs were going for it. I have actually sat and cried in recent weeks

We've decided well be selling up and moving on 3 years when dd2 finishes school but until then I need to find a way to cope.

I was all set to put a note through the door but then heard the woman in the garden saying how she was going to fucking rip someone's head off for asking her son to be quiet at school!!!
I'm worried if I complain to the council it won't be anonymous and we will need to declare it as a problem when we sell. Anyone know the ins and outs of complaining and repercussions??
Also her and her kids are just so loud. The whole house seems in absolute chaos. Kids always crying or tantrum in. Lots of shout swearing. Lots if shout parenting. Lots of loud music. Doors damming. The woman chats to her mum at 8am every Sunday morning on her back step whilst having a fag. It's dead silent except for her shouting and laughing at her mum down the phone. Last Sunday morning we could hear "fuck off. Just fuck off. No way mum. No fucking way. Oh my fucking God mum. You should have told the silly cunt to fuck off mum"!! Followed by very loud laughing.

Just feel very sad about it all. What's worrying is no one else seems bothered as far as I can tell. Although being the street newbie I have not said much myself about it to anyone.

Wow! There really are some awful neighbours about! My OP seems so trivial in comparison... but what I have found out is that having horrible neighbours is truly miserable. I never thought I wanted to live in rural isolation but I totally see the attraction now!

We used to have awful neighbours. Our first day living in the house, they came round to complain about the noise of our six month old baby banging her feet on the carpet.

They would regularly leave their children alone and go to the pub. Screaming rows and DV at 4 in the morning where the DH would leave for weeks on end. Arguing because the DH was apparently "looking" at my friend and I wearing bikinis in the garden. And really childish things like chucking stones into our side of the garden that they didn't want on their side

Thank fuck I moved. I love my new (thankfully detached) house and all of my neighbours are awesome. We've become great friends and regularly have couples nights out and parties at each other's houses

It can work out. Not all neighbours are the spawn of satan.

Asked neighbours to turn down music one time, had music so loud it was just noise all night, every night for th following year. One neighbour who'd loved next door for 20 years cracked and moved out, as did we after spending as much time as possible out of the flat. I hope the wankers are dead or at least in prison. Oddly, we wouldn't be in such a fab house now had they not forced us out.

The best decision we ever made was to sell up to get away from a nightmare, psycho, loud neighbour. We put it off cos we thought we'd make a loss, as we'd only been there a year when we put it on the market, but we managed to break even. The first night in our new flat was so so blissful - just to be free of living of the constant underlying anxiety that comes from living next to someone like that.

Get out now - life's too short...

My next door neighbours are the worst I've ever had and I've lived here nearly 15 years.

I could have cried with joy when I saw the house has been put up for sale (they rent it) so I am hoping they will be off soon. My neigbour across the street gave me the thumbs up through the window when we watched the estate agents putting the sign up.

I feel the same. I've lived in my house for less than a year and already want to move because of the neighbours.
I've posted before about my neighbours children constantly kicking their ball at my fence and wall. Bashing my door and windows non stop when they kick their ball into my garden. They swear constantly. Parents are usually sat out the front all day now it's warmer, smoking, drinking and blasting music. They were even sat out in the ROAD on garden chairs a few weeks back Generally not nice people and I'm sick of having to put up with them.
I've approached the parents once (brave, haha), the one looked at me like she was ready to fight and the other said literally not a word to me. She called her son back though on that occasion but it hasn't helped in the long run.
It all sounds quite trivial from the outside but when you are unable to relax in your own home it's bloody stressful and upsetting.

My sympathies to anyone in this situation, it is truly awful.
I rented a lovely house about 5 years ago, I loved it, loved the area. I was in the middle of a row of three.
Then this woman and her sons (20s) moved in. They argued, shouted and screamed through the walls and were in and out all night.
They also took to blocking me in on my drive, so I had to go round and ask them to let me out/stop blocking me. I was keen to get on ok with them and was polite. The mum was ok about it at the time.
After that, they blocked the drive all the time and made it hard for me to get onto my drive.
They were in and out all night, slamming doors. They didnt work, so being up all night wasnt a problem for them. I dont think it bothered the other next door as they were buffered from the noise.
We had the same landlord so I complained, he was pretty good about it and obviously issued a warning as the noise reduced.
But, every morning, about 3am, they would slam the door really loud. It sounds really over the top, but it gave me insomnia, as I was waiting for it to slam every night. I moved rooms but could still hear it.
The elder son used to stand in their front garden and just stare through the window.
I felt intimidated and uncomfortable in my own home. The council were sympathetic but just told me to keep a noise diary. I did consider reporting it again to l/lord but it just sounded so weak "they shut their door loudly at 3am".
In the end, I decided to move out. It may have been a rental but I loved that house and they just ruined it. Im happy where I am now, neighbours can occasionally be a bit rowdy, but nothing compared to before.

As your neighbours are renting, I'd maybe give it a bit longer as they may move out.
It is awful having to leave a home you love because of some horrible bastards next door, but for me was worth it in the long run.
I really hope those fuckers meet their match one day.

Nothing like as bad as you lot but we has awful neighbours years ago. We had a shared drive and they would stand at the window staring in anger if we so much as had a delivery (and asked us to stop letting people deliver things to our house!) and yet felt it was fine for their friends and family to park on the drive, literally blocking us in - then being arsey when we knocked on the door to ask to be let out
We had been thinking of moving but they spurred us on to go.
Now we're looking to move again (nothing to do with our neighbours, they are fantastic) and a house has come up, right size, right location but I know the family next door to it are arses. We aren't even bothering to go and look at it.
Bad neighbours are the absolute pits. You all have my sympathies

I have a recent thread about how my neighbours have got a Staffordshire Bull Terrier which they let into my garden. It shits all over the lawn so my children can't play out there. We also never know when it's going to come barrelling out of their patio doors into our garden and frankly, with a toddler and a 5 year old I'm terrified at having an unpredictable and powerful dog in my garden with such small children.

Because the neighbours will pick up the shit when we point it out to them, they can't understand why we aren't happy with this situation and have got very offended that we don't like their dog.

I'm trying to find a way to pay for a sturdy six foot fence and get our house on the market. Looks like we're spending the summer indoors or at the park though.

We suffered for 8 years in our last house! Being sworn at daily/cig ends being thrown on our drive/ drug dealers/parties til all hours her windows being smashed up/blocking our drive and refusing to move the car. We hated being at home my stomach used to churn when we had to come home after going out. Her kids were wild and were then in primary school they were left to wander around from an early age, the police used to bring them home (nothing was ever done about her lack of care) and were very abusive, she just didn't care. We moved and have lovely neighbours now, although one house is up for sale now and I'm praying that nice people move in! Btw the neighbour from hell - Her children are now in high school and are excluded all the time - ironically her job is working with children that have bad homes!!!! You just couldn't make it up!!!!

Laser do you have a shared garden?

I'm catching up and shaking my head with every post, there really are some truly horrible people out there, I feel for all of you,

Winnie, separate garden but only a low hedge and path between them. They let the dog out unsupervised and it comes round/over the hedge.

Laser I would be asking neighbours to keep dog on a lead? How can it get in your garden???? Can you not both pay for a fence if there isn't one? I have a dog (cockapoo) and would never let it out if my garden wasn't secure

obviously, we've asked. The woman keeps it out of our garden, the bloke doesn't seem to care. It is an odd setup with no fence dividing the gardens but has never been a problem before because none of the people who have lived there have had a dog, so the small hedge and path has been fine as a marker.

Another one who really dislikes their neighbours, haven't had any issues at all until they moved in 18 months ago and it's been nothing but noise and their bastard piano playing every morning and every night. Neighbour told us to go fuck ourselves when we asked for a compromise on the times they play. It's 'their family' time and screw everyone else.

Utter twunts.

Laser the fact they let their dog come in to your garden at all knowing you have small children, let alone allowing it to shit everywhere (that just horrifies me!!) is a good measure of the kind of people they are.

Our neighbours came in about 11.30 last night and immediately started having a row, windows wide open as always, lots of fucks and cunts as always...I'm counting down the days!

I get where you're coming from OP. I live in a back to back end terrace. Our neighbours at the back are loooouuuud.

Two kids, we hear them playing sometimes, I don't mind that. It's nothing too unbearable. I think one of them must have been chucking a ball around the other night when I was trying to get DD to sleep but I tapped on the wall and it stopped.

The mother though, jesus, she's a shouter. Not as bad as she once was but at one point it was every single morning, shouting and screaming and swearing at the kids. It did hit definite verbal abuse at one point and I reported her to SS. It calmed a little after that.

But I get completely where you're coming from with the tense feeling, the anxiousness, the knot in my stomach every time I hear her. My DH isn't as bothered by it as I am but I think he's always liked this house more than me anyway (we own, been here nearly 2 years).

The people who had the house before us lived here for like 20 years. When we looked round I asked about the neighbours and she said "oh they're fine, young family at the back, you hear her shouting at the kids occasionally you know" and I wish wish wish I'd pushed her for more info on that. But then occasional shouting is normal, you just don't expect screaming several times a day...

Potential light at the end of the tunnel. We know they rent so there's always the hope they might move! DH reckons he heard them talking about a mortgage the other day but I don't know if they actually were...

I'd move. Do not enter into any dispute or you'll have to declare it when you sell. Get out ASAP.

God- having read these, I'll be more tolerant of next door's endlessly barking dog!