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Night Owl vs Early Bird AIBU

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Yukduck · 24/05/2016 22:54

My dh works Mon-Fri and his shifts can be 8am to 4pm, 9am to 5pm or 10am to 6pm. It varies.

I work 5pm to 9pm and 10am to 2pm (weekends) so I can do childcare for my daughter. I have a 2yo grandaughter.
Dh loves the "earlies". He swaps shifts with colleagues at every opportunity so does mostly 8am to 4pm shifts. He is up at 6.30am putting on the TV, singing in the shower, chatting and making us a cup of tea, and generally making sure I am awake too. I could gladly throttle him as I am still sleep deprived from being knackered from my shift the night before. Dd and granddaughter arrive just before 8am. I have granddaughter til 4.30pm. My day has no breaks or time for rest before I rush off to work myself.
AIBU to think he is being selfish by doing as many early shifts as he can and waking me up. When he does the 10am to 6pm at least I get a lie in til 8am.
I do love him to bits, and he does work hard, but I find myself gritting my teeth at 6.30am. I am just looking for sympathy really as am so knackered atm.

OP posts:
WriteforFun1 · 25/05/2016 18:12

I dint understand this at all
He can love life at the crack of dawn if he wants but he needs to STFU while doing it!
Bottom lip wobble my arse, he's not three.

Dozer · 25/05/2016 18:41

Your DH is being selfish, inconsiderate and disrespectful of your needs.

It's also very childish and codependent of him to "share everything with you", ie demand your time and attention.

Dozer · 25/05/2016 18:44

The posters who say DH sounds lovely are wrong!

It's not at all "lovely" to persistently wake your partner when you know they're not a morning person, like rest and work hard, demand attention and to "share everything", then to punish and seek to influence them with the "lip wobble" for objecting.

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