to think the teacher should have told me?

[bostonkremekrazy]

I'll start by saying DD is not my PFB - but I am super-protective and all my kids might as well be my PFBs .....not sure if i am thinking straight here!

DD is 3 - started nursery in jan.
When dh was getting her changed for bed called me to show me a mark was at the top of her arm - it was a bite-mark

he asked her about it and she said X bit me in the playground....another 3 yr old in her class. she said teacher took me in for a snack, and made X say sorry.
She told me the same story when i asked her about it. I dressed her in her uniform at lunchtime and there was no mark....it is fresh and most definitely a bite-mark from another child (she cant reach the top of her arm with her own mouth).
We have taken pictures of the bite-mark.
I overheard teacher telling X's mum last week that he had been biting.
AIBU to think the teacher should have told me when i collected her from nursery that she had been bitten today?
I think i should speak to her tomorrow and show her the pictures - the mark is quite bad! but is that a bit OTT?

No YNBU if my son's pre-school have time to write a handwritten note today because he fell over and has a 2cm graze on his leg they have time to tell you if not write it down about a far more serious injury!

I mean they must have an accident book that you sign when your childs hurt?!

I should say it is state nursery - so I am not paying for private care...it is the nursery attached to our local school.

there are 24 children and 3 adults.

Of course you should have been told I can't believe there's people on her saying you shouldn't expect it. At dd's school I get a form in her bag when there's been an incident/accident detailing what happened and what action was taken. Very poor practice for you not to be informed.

Of course you should have been told, and you should have had to sign an incident report

I would expect to have been told.

Not that child X bit DD, but that DD had been bitten and a brief summary of any action taken (e.g. first aid, comforting, etc, rather than X made to say sorry).

Preschool usually get parent to sign the accident book.

Don't think u need photos but a quiet word with preschool manager would be in order

I would expect to be told! My daughter was scratched at nursery some yrs ago and they didn't mention it so we took pictures and spoke to nursery, they hadn't seen it happen and didn't know - they were very apologetic! It was only one incident so not a big deal but unless you speak to them they won't know that it's an issue.

State nursery or not shouldn't matter mines the same type as yours! Go in and talk to them

I do wonder if they saw the mark - which is why i took a picture - it is under the puffy sleeve of her summer dress.

she says she cried and teacher took her in for a snack. I know when she has cried in the past teacher has given her a cuddle etc - and I have no concerns of her welfare there, she has been very happy until today.

none of mine were biters so its new to me...

also unfortunate that she had her pre-school jabs yesterday and consequently has a little plaster on each arm (put on yesterday by the nurse after the jab), i expect her poor arm is very sore as the bite was just above the plaster.

i will do the drop off tomorrow and ask teacher if she has seen dd arm, and how they are dealing with the biting - i dont want her bitten again obviously.

Maybe the teacher didn't see although your DD said she had, or maybe she just forgot to tell you.
You should definitely bring it up with the teacher though, as you should've signed an incident form.

I don't really have any advice but when my sister was at nursery, my mum threw an absolute fit because my sister was bitten by another child.

She was pretty embarrassed when she turned up the next day to pick up my sister and was told (apparantly quite smugly) that "your daughter bit a child today"

So i talked to teacher....

who says she didn't realise dd had been bitten, just that boy had hurt her.

the usual procedure is to tell both parents - but of course neither parent was told and now won't be because it happened yesterday and its too late to tell the child off or inform the parent....no idea why is too late to let the mum know he's bitten again, but thats for the teacher to worry about i guess.

i told teacher it was a nasty mark, which is now a bruise today, and that i'd appreciate her watching closely so that it doesnt happen again.

i've told dd if he comes near her yell loudly no X, you mustn't bite.....and run to the teacher......and the teacher said to dd make sure you tell teacher if anyone hurts you at school.

so i am glad i said something, as otherwise teacher would have been none the wiser that he had bitten again.....and now dd knows she has to say what the child has done to her, not just cry and say x hurt me!

"If he comes near her yell loudly"
Wow.

I think it's a bit much to ask her to yell every time he comes near her. Unless he consistently bites every child he coes close to all day long. Plus if he's seeking reaction you could be making him target your dd more getting her to yell when he's near.

I have said the same kind of thing to my DS after a particularly nasty bite from a nursery class mate. (One of the teacher's children btw).
I don't think it's an unreasonable piece of advice to give to a child at all
DS was as outraged as I was and had a very sore ring of teeth marks for a week.