DP likes baby name, but it's the name of an ex..... WWYD?

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DP has really struggled coming up with suggestions and says any name he's suggested I've had a reason why not....

We are down to two names, one mine, one his.

He loves the name he's found, but it is the name of an ex of mine and a rather unusual name at that.

I don't really like the name.

If we used it and he found out it was an ex of mine's name and I hadn't told him I think he'd be upset.

WWYD?

By an ex, what do you mean? Someone you went out with for a fortnight when you were 14 or someone you lived with for seven years? If the first, meh.

I agree with other when picking names surely you did like everyone else.

DP jack
Me no knew a boy called that at school he was horrid
Me Benjamin
Dp no hate it
Dp David
Me no dated him once
Dp ok, Darren
Me no hate it
This went on and on and on for ages

as to why you haven't just told him

If I liked it, I'd use it, you'd forget the ex within minutes and it would simply be your child's name. However, you don't like it, so don't use it.

Bob is short for Kate.

I said I liked Catherine, DH said "that's my exes name" I said "ok, we'll scrap that one then", and we moved on. It didn't bother me at all.

Just tell him. Out of interest, why didn't you say when he first mentioned it?

We couldn't choose until we saw the baby's face. Suddenly our top two names just didn't seem to fit and we went with a surprise new name.

So, 'he's struggled to come up with names'... So he's not come I with msny then? It's hardly your fault you don't like the few get gas come up with.

Don't use the latest one - You. Don't. Like. It.

This is your child's name we're talking about, not the paint colour for the spare room. It's fine to spend a lot of time finding one you both like.

I wouldn't expect him to know the name of everyone you ever dated but I would expect you to have told him as soon as he brought it up. Very odd not to tbh. If he found out afterwards it would make it seem a bigger deal than if you just told him in the first place

Depends if ex was a serious relationship or a week when you were a teenager and kissing was as far as it went. Also depends on how common the name is but you've said it's quite unusual. My ex has a common name but spelt with an unusual (Welsh not younique) way. I might use the name spelt differently, if I really loved it.

I felt bad as I'd vetoed all his other names (to be fair there were only about 3). I can't remember what they were or why but I'm assuming I had good reason.

He then thought very long and hard and came up with this name (it's Rowan). I didn't have the heart to veto it and thought he'd probably come up with something else before long and forget about it.

Unfortunately he hasn't and now has his heart set on this name.

If you don't LIKE the name, that's why you don't choose it. One of my sons has the name of someone I went out with years ago, but it doesn't 'remind' me of that person. They are two different people who happen to have the same name. Dh vetoed a name I really liked because it was his ex's name but it wouldn't have bothered me at all.

I'm annoyed that my ex has one of my favourite names ever. It's a common older name in France but definitely not common here at all. I've always loved it and now it's tainted forever .

Anyway I'm with everyone else, you should have said straight away "ugh no, exes name."

what if you changed the spelling to Roan?

OK, I am not a native English speaker but "Bob is short for Kate" 😱😱
How exactly??

tell him that youre surprised hes chosen the name of your ex, but you guess its a nice enough name in its own right

Why is this worth posting? You say "No, that's a name of my ex" and the matter is done.

If you're scared of telling your partner you have exes, you have bigger problems than baby names.

MeWhoo - it's a reference to a TV show called Blackadder. Not even the English language is that convoluted :)

MeeWhoo - have you ever seen Blackadder? 😂😂

Luckily my only significant ex has a pretty ugly, unfashionable name so any future son of mine is safe

lady I should have put a disclaimer- not real name suggestions!

I know 3 Rowans, age 14 and under, it's not common but it's not unusual either. If you don't like it, just say you don't like it and move on. The fact he's only thought of 3 in 9 months doesn't mean he trumps your choices.

Roman?

( @ Lady I had a lol moment)

Or Rohan.

My ds2 has the same name as an ex of mine. Name was my idea & dh knew about ex before I suggested the name. He was fine about it. It's a great name. Don't wish to out myself but t'is the name of a mythical King of England. My ex was a large black chap & ds2 is a small white thing.

butter for a moment there I thought your DS was called Cnut then realised there was a more obvious choice there!!

dh and I had a conversation when I was pg with dd1 it went like this

Me Alanah
Dh NO..

Nothing further... about a week later me to dh's best friends then wife.

I love Alanah but for some reason dh is just not wanting to discuss it
(wife of friend) Ahh Alanah was the name of the significant x (nasty break up)

So could be some reason like that.

However op if you dont like the name then I think you need to be honest about that