To be jealous of someone else's pregnancy news?

[MySisterTotallyIs]

I am mid 30's, single and starting to think it will never happen for me.

One friend has a three month old, another friend gave birth days ago, and another is about to drop. I did not feel jealous of their pregnancies.

But I've just accidentally found out a colleague's wife has just passed the 12 week mark and I'm overcome with jealousy and sadness.

I think maybe all 4 pregnancies when I feel ready to be a Mum and have a family but there's no sign of MY TURN is just a bit much really

Am I horrible to be jealous? Or is it normal?

Oh and regular poster using a recent NC

Good god you are in no way unreasonable.

You're a normal human being.

Your time will come.
Do you enjoy any sports? Wine tasting? I met my now DH when I had sworn myself off bloody idiot men for a while. I met him through theatre and mutual friends.

Plenty of fish is shocking but don't tar all internet dating with the same brush. Some, the ones you subscribe to and invest some money in the process, can be fruitful.

Or. Who needs a man? If you just want a baby and you feel strongly then there are options you can look into.

But. No matter what. You are not unreasonable. Promise.

Thanks - I'm still stunned it was a stunt for attention her DH is mortified, it's a big organisation on a split site and word went round both sites that

a) "Pete's" wife is pregnant
b) Oh no she's not - he's been denying it constantly for days

I feel bad for him.

In general yes, I'm still sad about being single and childless, but not crying into wine sad. Big hugs back to everyone who felt/feels the same

Have you thought about going it alone using donor sperm? A friend of mine did that and it's worked out really well for her. Took me 10 years to conceive my first so I understand the feelings.

I have a lovely ds.

He is truly lovely.

I also have a huge c section scar cos I nearly lost him, a bum which has had to have 5 operations on so far following pregnancy and I lost a baby last year.

Pregnancy has completely destroyed my body.

I do of course love having my ds but I do feel sore every day, I get weird stomach spasms and I am in pain with my bottom every day.

So, ok you do not have children yet but please see the positives so far. I live in pain every day :-(

BillSykes I could, but I don't want to be a sole parent by choice IYSWIM? I have additional health needs and feel I would need the extra pair of hands. Not just that but I feel that though my parents were married for most of my childhood I lacked a loving father and I wouldn't want to deprive my child of that chance.

for Vixy but I do have health concerns so I do know what it's like to live with physical issues.

I think it's normal but it's not very helpful. It will just make yourself feel worse. I think the best thing is to give yourself a bit of a talking to. I think the MN phrase is that you need to give your head a wobble. Remind yourself that your are pleased for them even if it's hard

Whatever situation you are in there is always someone better off than you and always somebody worse off than you do it's pretty pointless giving other people's situations any thought.

Best of luck with everything.[flower]

Where do people meet these days Angels ?? it's baffling!!!

Sorry about my zillions on typos. I blame the phone.

BTW lol at meeting Mr Right at a Zumba class 😂

although badminton classes aren't such a bad suggestion

Sports and I do not mix Frippers!

They should.

They don't

All perfectly normal. I'm closer to being a grandmother and my children are grown up but I still envy newly pregnant women and actually for while really wanted another one though I know it's not even physically possible lol. It's the tinge of sadness that I'll never go through it again.