to be really bloody irritated at all my exH's gf's posts about autism?

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Ok that might sound a bit complicated but basically I'm 'friends' on FB with exH's gf (let's call her X) - only to keep contact with them/him when they have the dc's as exH basically refuses to speak to me and I've got more chance of getting hold of him through her.

NB - one of our dc's is severely autistic.

X often posts things on FB, and every bloody time something comes up about autism she likes and shares it - it feels extremely 'LOOK AT ME I'M SO ACCEPTING OF MY BOYFRIEND'S SON'.

Hide her newsfeed? You can keep the "friendship" but not have to see anything.
I can see why it would be annoying but better to have someone who is on board with it all.

Or maybe she's just very accepting of her boyfriend's son?

Just hide her man it's not worth it.

If she's fine and kind to your son then it's good enough.

Fwiw if the exs gf posted this stuff (which I wouldn't know as I'm choosy about fb friends) I would think the more who's educated sort of the better.

Sorry, hadn't finished!

The problem is that neither of them have seen the dc's since November, exH even lied to me to avoid seeing DC1 on his birthday because he's a fucking disgusting person and has not even deigned to phone them in over 2 months.

So when I see 'share if you love someone with autism' blah blah blah all over FB, as if to make him out to be father of the year it makes me bloody furious.

Aibu to think that if either of them cared at all about either of the dc's they would actually make the effort to phone or visit them once in a fucking while, not broadcasting all over FB about how much they apparently care?

If they aren't seeing the DC then just delete her from Facebook.

Yep ^^

Your update definitely makes a difference to my opinion of this situation. I'd be so tempted to comment "if you love someone with autism so much why haven't you seen him for months?" but no good can come of that so just hide or delete.

*Sigh, I know I should Four. I guess I'm just a glutton for punishment, I don't want to see it all especially pictures of their new baby but I can't look away

Maybe she knows other people with autism too?

But anyway, if it bugs you, hide her posts. Just keep her on there as someone you can message if you need to exchange info about your son.

As mum to 2 with ASD, I'd have to delete her purely because that would annoy me beyond belief, so no ynbu.

Damsel, I'm very fucking tempted to do just that, someone needs to remind the prick that he has 3 kids not just 1.

I can't quite pinpoint what it is specifically that chronically winds me up about those things, they just do! If she does know anyone else with ASD she never bloody posted about them before she met my exH.

You have every right to do that but the problem is people like him genuinely can't see they are in the wrong so it will just drag you into Facebook drama you don't need.

I very very much doubt he would even respond tbh, he doesn't talk to me and is hardly ever on FB - it would be her that would comment if anything.

I can see why you're pissed off but how do you know for sure that your DS is the only person she's met with autism?

Well obviously its possible she knows other people with ASD but I have a mutual friend who has known her for years and she never posted this stuff until she met my exH, hence why I said about it seeming like she's posting to be 'seen to be so accepting of her bf's child'.