A little bit of backstory: X-H and I divorced 10 years ago, a year later, he moved away. We live in London and he moved to Leeds for work reasons etc, over the years he's had zero contact with our twins, DD and DS, now 12 years old, three years ago, he moved back to London and wanted to meet the twins and build a relationship with them, it worked out great with DS, they're amazingly close now but his relationship with DD is pretty much non existent.
DD can be a right little Madame, we had some real issues with her in her later primary school years and X-H's reappearance only worsened those issues, the Scouts movement have been a massive help in curbing DD's behaviour and challenging her to be better, signing her up as a Cub was the best decision ever.
She's now in Scouts and has been made a Sixer this year (it means she leads a small group) they have a massive district camp this weekend that we've known about for months, have paid for and as we're vegetarians, her scout leader has most likely done the food shop already with her in mind.
The issue is, that DD is a massive fan of Korean pop music, their are normally 2 Korean conventions that have a big concert outside of Asia once a year, these are aalways held in LA and New York/New Jersey, so no chance of DD going, but this year to celebrate Korean/French relations, their's going to be a convention in Paris on Thursday June the 2nd, without asking or even informing me, X-H went and bought convention tickets & Eurostar tickets for this Friday.
He has suprised DD this afternoon with the tickets and I've never seen her so excited, but going on Friday means she misses the camp, I've asked if they can go Monday instead and X-H has said, he's already booked tickets and hotel, it's too late to cancel and can't afford to buy new Eurostar tickets and hotel etc.
Well in that case, I've said she can't go, she already has plans etc and the blow out was not pretty.
This is pretty much a one time only thing, so I think I might be being too harsh, but I can't imagine calling her Scout Leader and letting him know she won't be there at such short notice.
AIBU?
To make DD go camping instead of with X H
Cheeseinthetrap · 23/05/2016 19:54
Regina, if you'd read my earlier post, you'd see I've agreed to let her go 
X-H is an idiot, but I'm thrilled he's taking an interest in his kids, it's hard being the only person in the world that cares for them, what I'm not okay with is him going off and planning things without informing me & creating clashes, a phone call would have insured she could do both activities & it would have given me time to plan separate activities for DS, but I was under the assumption that they would both do camp and then spend the half term break keeping each other entertained with a sitter, now I have to try and put DS in an activity for the week, as it wouldn't be fair to leave him alone with a sitter whilst DD gets to go to Paris.
His big surprise, has made my life difficult, was that his intent, no but it's the end result and he needs to realise that
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