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AIBU to say NO?

16 replies

LouBlue1507 · 23/05/2016 19:00

My OH's brothers have asked to come over for a 'lads night' sometime soon.. There's 4 of them. My OH has said its up to me but I really don't want them staying over.

I'm 33 weeks pregnant and don't fancy having a houseful over night! I'm in pain, not sleeping and peeing myself daily! I really wouldn't feel comfortable having everyone over and not being comfortable in my own home. We have no where for them to sleep (spare bedroom has been made into nursery) and when they stay they're up all night drinking and don't know when to leave the next day. My flat gets completely taken over!

I've said they're more than welcome to come up and visit for an afternoon/evening just not all night/overnight.

AIBU to say no? x

OP posts:
SabineUndine · 23/05/2016 19:01

YANBU but I'd be wary of having them over for an evening, in case they decided to make a night of it anyway.

NannawifeofBaldr · 23/05/2016 19:02

Not in any way.

Pinkheart5915 · 23/05/2016 19:03

Not unreasonable, easy to find an alternative!
Is in possible for your oh to go to his brothers? Or An afternoon in the pub? could they go out for the night?

It's nice to read a thread where the oh says its up to you, we've have lots of horrible partner threads lately.

Ameliablue · 23/05/2016 19:04

Given your stage of pregnancy is day it is reasonable to say not at your house. Maybe they could do it elsewhere?

Janecc · 23/05/2016 19:55

Get them to go elsewhere to have their fun. Maybe go to a hotel all together for a boys weekend.

SquinkiesRule · 23/05/2016 19:56

Send your Dh to them for the weekend. No reason it has to be at yours is there?

MrsSpecter · 23/05/2016 20:01

Yanbu at all!! If they cant take the hint about when is a decent time to go home then no, they wouldnt be welcome in mine. Sounds like your DH needs to have words about consideration and respect.

Anyway, thats for another time when you dont have a new baby.

They can go elsewhere this time. Where do they all live?

bumbleymummy · 23/05/2016 20:03

Could you take yourself off somewhere quiet for the night and leave them to it?

ollieplimsoles · 23/05/2016 20:05

Say no.

Your oh's family are really quite strange aren't they op?
No wonder you want to put then off for a week when you have had lo.

Original poster
LouBlue1507 · 23/05/2016 20:06

OH is completely understanding and has said fair enough.. They all live with his dad (we're the only ones with our own place).. Just glad I'm not being a misery!

OP posts:
Crisscrosscranky · 23/05/2016 20:09

Hmm I think YAB a bit U- you still have 7 weeks of pregnancy to go and these are your BiLs. It's your OH's house too. Run a bath, get some ear plugs and let them enjoy each other's company I say.

LanceCorporalJones · 23/05/2016 20:12

Just the suggestion of having 4 men over for a lads night in when I was pregnant would have made me have violent thoughts Grin

Vixyboo · 23/05/2016 20:23

I wouldn't agree and I'm not even preg lol!

mygorgeousmilo · 23/05/2016 20:24

YANBU

MrsSpecter · 23/05/2016 20:47

Run a bath, get some ear plugs and let them enjoy each other's company I say.

She cant stay in the bath all night and the next day.

WhereYouLeftIt · 23/05/2016 21:06

"They all live with his dad" -what ages are we talking? Old enough to get their fingers out and get their own places to host their own lads' nights?

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