To cancel?

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I had made plans for today to meet an old friend for breakfast .

We had arranged to meet a few weeks ago but I had to cancel last minute as I was unwell .

I have ME .

I've now come down with cystitis and I feel like I have lots of flu like symptoms .

I'm so tired I can barely muster the energy to sit upright .

I've cancelled on my friend again and she is not happy .

She called me and begged me to come meet her for "just a few hours " , "it's been so long , I'm gutted " and so on.

I feel awful for letting her down again . But I also feel physically bloody awful.

I don't feel she understands my illness at all and I wouldn't expect her to as she doesn't see me living with it .

Should I have just sucked it up and gone? I'm feeling guilty and as if I'm "playing it up"

YANBU, if you're not well enough to go then that's that. I feel like crap when I get a UTI and that's without ME on top of it.

Agree with Sweetie - she's not much of a friend if she can't understand you're not well and not up to meeting up with her. Maybe give it a couple of days and get her a card and maybe explain to her in it about M.E and what knock on effects it can have.

Does she have young children?

Of course you are not BU. Your friend appears to have no understanding of your illness. 'A few hours' seems a long time for breakfast.
You probably don't want company but did she offer to come round and bring or make breakfast, perhaps shop for you? I guess not.
Wishing you better 💐

"She called me and begged me to come meet her for "just a few hours " , "it's been so long , I'm gutted " and so on."
Just a few hours ? If that's the plans-lite, how long was the original breakfast plan going to run?

My friend has recently cancelled twice on me (it's definitely not you, OP, as I was never meeting her for breakfast ). What she doesn't know is that I put off a weekend away with DH as I had arranged to meet her for Saturday lunch, and also declined a work event the previous time. I understand she's ill, but having arranged my work/time off around our "dates" and been cancelled at short notice both times, I won't be going out my way to arrange to meet her again. Maybe your friend had put herself out to be able to meet you?

No young children and no other commitments in terms of arranging care or time off etc .

I do feel really bad but there's nothing I can do . I've been in bed all day .