I am starting to get cross now tbh.
DD has some learning issues and I will admit she is oversensitive. She struggles socially a lot and does not particularly like other kids. She is very quiet at school mostly and not one to get in trouble. She suffered from bullying at primary and was a nightmare for not reporting it. She had a good group of girls in her class who did luckily.
Now in secondary.
I have posted about this before. DD was the victim of a very serious incident resulting in the expulsion of a pupil in March.
Last week she again reported a fairly serious incident in which she was called an awful name and punched in the ribs and breast. She had a mark on her ribs and missed her martial arts lesson on Saturday because it 'hurt when she breathed in'. She LOVES this lesson and would not miss it out of choice.
I sent a note in to school about it. The boy has some needs and dd actually really likes him so I would be very surprised (and it is out of character) if she would make up an incident about him, in the past dd has been protective of this child.
School rang yesterday. Basically they say that there is always root of dds complaints but that she 'sees things differently to what has happened' They said that they did witness the child being inappropriate in class, they did witness him play fighting, they did tell the other children off for running away from him because he was trying to play fight them BUT they did not see him hit her (even though he WAS seen hitting out) and have basically discredited her.
There was a further incident in which the child was told off from snatching from dd and went on to call dd a nasty name and throw lego at her after he had been told off for the first incident but they are insinuating this did not happen either.
I spoke to school yesterday and they are giving her a book to write down incidents so that they can decide what is normal kids being kids (something I will be very honest dd struggles with) and what needs dealing with.
DD then comes home at home time and there has been another incident.
The classroom they are usually in has been used by a GCSE group. The teacher asks dd to come with her so that she can go back to tell the classroom when they find a room and leaves the other 30 kids put.
They find a classroom and dd is sent back to tell the other kids. The 'cocky' one from the other kids tells the others not to go to the classroom and just skive and say dd did not tell them and tells dd if she tells the teacher she will make sure everyone hates her and will batter her. They say it doesn't matter if dd gets in trouble as she is always good.
DD is terrified of getting in trouble so goes back to the room with a couple of the good kids and tells the teacher. The kids involved end up in detention and spend the rest of the session calling dd names. They have been in detention and now dd is frightened as they said that they will batter her and the child is twice her size.
I am just so fed up of it. DD is rock bottom, doesn't want to be in school and is now upset that she is being made out to be oversensitive and a liar and will have to miss part of her lunch every day in order to report her incident book to the teacher for the teacher to tell her she is being petty.
For the record I also had to deal with her meltdown after a member of staff showed her up in front of the class last week for the presentation of her work when she has a disability which affects this so I am feeling a bit frustrated anyway.