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AIBU? To be upset with a year 4 teacher?

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Elianna · 20/05/2016 19:55

Hi all,
This is my first post so please be gentle with me. My dc's year 4 teacher is leaving after the May holidays, so my dc will have a new teacher. The new teacher was introduced to the class today and apparently a few of the children were playing up, so the teacher told them to be quiet and said that they weren't going to deal with this kind of crap! I know it's not the swear word of the century but I felt it was unprofessional and I try to bring my dcs up to be polite and respectful. The teacher went on to use the word crap several times throughout the day, not aimed directly at my child but I still don't like it! I'm also not sure how and if I should approach it, as I don't want my child to be singled out.

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Ameliablue · 20/05/2016 22:15

No that is not acceptable language for a primary teacher.

exLtEveDallas · 20/05/2016 22:22

DDs teacher (year 6) once shouted "Stop going on about the bloody elephants" during a particularly trying lesson.

The kids thought it was funny. One parent (not me) complained. Teacher had to write a note home to all kids/parents apologising.

Teacher had 4 bottles of wine and one bar of galaxy on her desk Monday morning

HooplaLoopla1 · 20/05/2016 22:23

Elianna, you're right, they might. Let's hope she doesn't have to teach them any science, or in a few weeks she might have them making bombs too...

HooplaLoopla1 · 20/05/2016 22:24

exLt, I'd would've got her a badge too!

Thudercatsrule · 20/05/2016 22:27

Wouldn't bother me...but the swimming teacher at my boys school calling them fat and lazy bloody did!!

Thelyingbitchandthewardrobe · 20/05/2016 22:28

Ok, she shouldn't have said crap but why did she say it in the first place? It seems like the behaviour of the class was unacceptable, and for a teacher to resort to using the word crap it must have been outrageously bad.

Maybe this will be a teacher who doesn't take any crap, makes the class behave and ensures your kids get a good education.

pearlylum · 20/05/2016 22:36

I don't know how old year 6 is, but some teachers swear a lot at my kids school.
I know one or two teachers use the word fuck a lot, telling some of the older boys to fuck off and throw books at them. All good natured of course.

ElectroStallion · 20/05/2016 22:40

Are you serious pearly? How old are we talking?

pearlylum · 20/05/2016 22:47

Many of the teachers at my kids school will use milder swear words, (secondary school).
The one teacher that I know that tells kids to go fuck themselves uses this language in one class, a small group of all boys doing an A level class. The boys themselves are 17/18, teacher is 24 ish. Pupils think its hilarious. They berate the teacher with harsh words too. It;s all banter.
The boys would defend their teacher to the hilt.

pearlylum · 20/05/2016 22:48

The odd swear word sneaks out with many teachers at secondary according to my kids, the odd shit etc.

myownprivateidaho · 20/05/2016 22:58

Can't imagine getting worked up about this, I'm surprised so many feel strongly about it.

EweAreHere · 20/05/2016 23:00

TBH, it wouldn't bother me that much. I work with Year 4 children; most parents would be shocked at what comes out of their mouths when they think grown ups aren't about... and some don't even care when they are!

Janecc · 21/05/2016 04:55

I wouldn't want it to be said in front of DD. Yes, crap is a slang word with origins in Middle English. However, these days it is also commonly associated with the work done on loos by Thomas Crapper. "Going to the crapper", (originating in American English) and picked up this side of the pond, "to go for a crap", is now in common usage. I find it hard to believe the teacher wouldn't know this. I would definitely be bothered if it was making my child uncomfortable and either say something to the teacher or talk to the phase/key stage 3 leader.

cosmicglittergirl · 21/05/2016 05:59

I think the sad thing is it doesn't set a positive note to the start of the time the teacher will have with the new class. I've taught year 4 and I wouldn't use the word crap with them (or any primary age child) as it's just so negative. I don't know if I'd say anything, but if it feels wrong to you, then I would. A simple misunderstanding can be cleared up or a (new?) teacher could have it explained to them why we don't employ that word with children.

NotYoda · 21/05/2016 06:10

It's a bad start and i would worry about a teacher using (mild) swearing to assert authority from the start with 9 year olds. if i worked with this person i would report it to the HT

Alos, children, even 9 year olds, feel insecure when a new teacher arrives, and at the loss of an old one, especially mid-term. They can sometimes feel it was their fault. This in turn can fuel bad behaviour

so I think you should tell the HT about it

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