To think it's not too much to ask??!

[Whaaat]

That my friends enquire into my IVF? I have been TTC for 4 long years and we attempted our first IVF session very recently. I was very excited about this and we were very hopeful. Found out today that it hasn't worked.

I have been very vocal about our difficulties - I am to blame, DH passed with flying colours. I have found that friends will ask from time to time, but with all the cliches thrown in ("why not adopt?" "Go on holiday and it'll happen"). My close friend had a baby 2 months ago and she has been relentless the entire pregnancy. Constant updates, 'bump' pics, tales of how she conceived the month she came off the pill and now almost daily baby pics and moaning about being tired. I get it, she's on cloud 9.

I told all my close friends (about 6 people) and NOONE has enquires how my IVF is going. I feel so let down as I'm always the first to support them. Today has been a bad day so I appreciate that it is clouding my judgement but I'm at the point where I want to tell them all to fuck off and send them all a piece of my mind.

[FuckingMother]

When my friends had IVF I was so worried if asking would upset them especially as I was pregnant at the time and they had had multiple attempts. I told her I didn't know whether to ask and didn't want to upset her but I was thinking about them. Turned out she wanted to talk but I always let her direct it.

I am sorry this cycle wasn't successful. Wishing you lots of luck

[FuckingMother]

Oh your friend who is bombarding you with pics is being a twat by the way.

I told my friend that I was pregnant the second time by leaving an answerphone message. She didn't do email/Facebook and I knew she would find it hard face to face. I wanted to give her privacy to respond as she wanted to. I did explain that, wasn't just impersonality!

[MegGriffin1]

Hello whaat, I have a friend who has had ivf not work three times. I take her lead when she wants to talk. I agree your friend constantly going on about pregnancy and her baby is insensitive. Yes we all know she's overjoyed and she's every right to be but as an adult it's wise to keep counsel on some things and realise the world isn't all about you. YADNBU x

[Vickyyyy]

Maybe they are not asking incase it upsets you to have to say nothings happened yet. Obviously if there was happy news you would tell them asap. I don't think I would ask about stuff like this actually thinking about it.