To think of we have fights over work then it's normal to want to quit???

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My OH & I work together. It's how we met and we used to be the same dept with the same manager but now I've been moved. OH asked for me to take lunch break with him to go do some shopping etc. Except when I went off at his lunch time he was in a meeting. Ran to the loo and now he's on a bloody call. I want to quit cause I'm not happy but we can't afford it. Am I being unreasonable to think taking a pay drop would be fine if it means we don't have a domestic in work every other week?

To be honest I think you need to get a grip. It's a job not a time to socialise with your partner. I used to work with mine, but we'd never seer each other until we'd get home. I think you need to calm down and focus on your job and not about where your OH is and what he's doing.

If you dislike your actual job then of course you should look at changing, but if it's just this fighting with your partner then you both need to grow up.

When DH and I worked in the same company we organized a lunch together once a month (that tended to get frequently re-scheduled to fit round work commitments). Other than that we ignored each other.

Can I suggest you do the same? Otherwise you are both compromising your ability to do your actual job.

I work with DH. We're in different teams. We rarely see each other in working hours, but occasionally will eat together if we both happen to walk out into the seating area at the same time. We never, ever argue at work because we leave any home issues at the door.

Maybe just keep work totally seperate?

Re- reading that I sound totally barmy

I think my main problem is that I am used seeing so much of him and it's strange not too. I'll get used to it I'm sure.

I also hate my job so time to job hunt. Sorry I needed to vent and happened to be on here

Absolutely look for a new job if you're not happy with the current one.

Whilst you are at work though, you should probably concentrate on remaining professional at all times - no domestics!

I used to work with a then-partner. It's really not ideal if you can't detach your home relationship with them from your work relationship. My ex expected us to always have lunch together, sit near each other, etc. And that not always happening did cause an atmosphere in the office. And there was also an atmosphere if we'd argued at home. He'd find ever more demonstrative ways to make sure I knew he was annoyed, even while I tried to get on with my job.

My ex is quite the arsehole, admittedly, but as two adults if you can't keep personal conflict out of the office you need to do something about it. You don't like your job anyway by the looks of things so get a new one.

The domestics happen after work - normally on the drive home.

DP and I work together and it's fine as we agree work is just work. A way to get cash to do what we want in real life if you can agree to leave home in the house, and work at work and stick to it, it is fine.

If you hate your job it's time for a new one - but if you're having a domestic every other week I would say the relationship is more of a problem than the job!