wibu to think I had been invited to the party?

[andpeakaboo]

I often babysit for a lovely family. On Tuesday I was asked if I was busy Saturday because they were having a 60's themed party for the dads 50th birthday starting at 6PM. I said I was free and the mum said 'great see you then'

Saturday comes, I spend ages doing my hair and make up in 60s style and had trawlled charity shops for suitable clothed.

I turned up at the house at 6.20PM as I didn't think they'd want everyone turning up bang on 6PM.

I was greeted at the door by a very flustered mum and she said 'thank God we thought you weren't coming' and both parents flew out the door and got in their car.

It suddenly dawned on me that I'd not been invited and was actually babysitting!! I was mortified. When the parents rolled in at 1am the dad clocked I was in 60's gear and said 'you knew you were babysitting, right?' I was so embarrassed I said 'yeah of course, I thought it'd be fun to do 60s things with the kid's

Wibu to presume I was invited?

[Mooey89]

I'm squirming in my seat for you!!!

[MilkTwoSugarsThanks]

I think I'd have brazened it out with - Oh I assumed I was dealing with the children, but I thought the party was here which was why I dressed up a bit.

Tbh I'm surprised that the children weren't invited to a family party.

[Ihatechoosingnames]

This thread will be appearing in the DM in a few days

[YorkieDorkie]

Hahahahhahahahaha! This is the best post for ages! Brilliant OP .

[AugustaFinkNottle]

Oh dear. It does seem a bit odd that they didn't discuss what times they'd need you to babysit for - are they normally as casual as that?

[RhiWrites]

Oh poor OP. I don't think you should be embarrassed, they were really unclear. U think they will guess they fucked up but all of you will be too polite to say anything. But if they do I wish you would say that they didn't actually mention babysitting, just we're having a party so yes you were surprised but understood how the misunderstanding happened.

[VioletBam]

It sounds like something Bridget Jones would do.

[SideOrderofChip]

This would haunt me. I wouldn't be able to face them again

[Heavens2Betsy]

Oh my!! This did make me laugh.
Reminds me of the One Foot In The Grave episode when the lady says they are in Kettering and they get invited to a party, then when they get there they are shown to the kitchen, the host thought they said were in Catering and were doing the cooking!!!

[FibbyMcFibFace]

Bright pink leggings with green and orange swirls which I sewed some bright patterned material onto to make flares, bright orange long sleeve top with same material sewn onto the sleeves, hem and neck and made a bandana too. Then knee high white boots.

...and they didn't even comment on it until they returned from their party. How peculiar.

[Vickyyyy]

Haha this is the kind of thing I can imagine happening to me. I would probably have assumed too, but would likely have thought later on that maybe they meant was I free for babysitting so I would have clarified with them.

Depends, are you usually social with them or are you just the babysitter? I know thats worded badly but you know what I mean

[Smurfnoff]

Oh no! Well done on the 'I dressed up for the kids'!

They phrased it quite vaguely and seem to have told you more about the party than the practicalities (ie what time they were leaving and coming back). You made a completely understandable mistake that will eventually just become a 'cringe' moment when you remember it. Don't let it spoil a good relationship with the family and cost you a good regular job.

[LadyReuleaux]

It was their fault, they should have quite clearly said "Are you free to babysit on Saturday?" and told you what time they needed you there (before 6pm obviously, if they needed to be somewhere else for 6)

So YANBU at all IMO and although I can understand if you feel embarrassed, you shouldn't - they should.

Like PPs I can totally imagine myself in this situation too.

[MonkeyPJs]

How mortifying.

I think, though, that the couple should be much more embarrassed than the OP

[QueenofallIsee]

Oh OP, I am cringing so hard that my bits hurt! Poor you! Knee high white boots...shudder

It is not your fault and you will just have to turn it into a Bridget Jones style anecdote

[FeralBeryl]

Aaargh. But quick thinking OP!
Definitely Bridget Jones esque. You poor thing

[itssaulgoodman]

Ha ha hilarious op! I think you were being a bit u to assume you were invited to the dads party however it sounds like you styled it out. Good for you

[Tragicomical]

Literally 😂😂


Brilliant OP

[APlaceOnTheCouch]

YWNBU to assume you were invited when all they discussed was the party and not the babysitting.

I am both and at this story but I bet they are more embarrassed than you. They can't have failed to notice your rather amazing 60's costume.

In future, I would very pointedly ask - am I babysitting or partying ? Then there will never be any confusion again

[lionheart]

I don't think YWBU. I really dislike it when people can't make a clear and simple request.

[Damselindestress]

Oh no! I feel for you, that must have been mortifying. I think since you have provided babysitting for them before they assumed that you knew that's what the conversation was about. But they weren't clear, they could have asked if you were available to babysit instead of just asking if you were free and they should have been more specific about the time, if they had let you know that the party wasn't at theirs so they were leaving to get there for 6 and needed you to be there before then to look after the children then you would have known what was going on. And I don't know why they felt the need to tell you about the theme of a party you weren't even invited to! Maybe they were just making conversation but that was confusing. By not giving you details like the time you needed to be at their house and instead giving you irrelevant information like the theme of the party, they did contribute to your confusion.

[KitKat1985]

Oh poor you OP!

Do you every do social things with them as well as babysit? If so I can understand the confusion. They should have just said 'are you free to babysit Saturday night' and not gone into all the detail!

[EnriqueTheRingBearingLizard]

Are you sure the mum doesn't Mumsnet?

[andpeakaboo]

I was hoping for similar stories, I cant be the only one...right???? Maybe I'll go in 80s gear next time!!

[DailyMailFodder]

I presume you bought a present or drinks? What did you do with them? Surely that made it really obvious that you thought you were there for the party.

Also, how come you didn't notice there was no party going on before you rang the bell? wouldn't the fact there were no cars or noise or people or decorations have made it REALLY obvious? Surely you would have noticed then ran home and got changed

?????