To think this woman was a bit cheeky?

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I was outside my house this evening putting something in the bin, when a woman came along fundraising for a charity. She said "Would you be interested in donating to x?". I said "No thank you". She said ok, and started to walk off, but then hesitated. Then she turned around and said "So you don't normally give then?" I was a bit taken a back, and also flustered as I was trying to stop DS escaping from the house at the same time. I said "I'm sorry, I can't think about this right now". She said ok and then left.

AIBU to think she was a bit cheeky?! There are lots of reasons why someone might not want to donate, but she seemed to assume it was because I was stingy.

This was the envelope type collection, not the bank details - I'd refuse point blank to do that!

I hate this kind of thing, especially on the doorstep. I say I'm 15 and my mum's not in/don't have a bank account/I already give to insert charity name they're chugging for . I'm 29, but what are they going to do, ask for ID?

I'm very good at closing doors in faces with literally no remorse. I find they "prey" on how polite we feel we have to be. After living with my great-grandma and seeing her be robbed repeatedly I won't even give them the time of day

In the street I stare straight ahead and don't acknowledge them even when they approach I just walk around and look past them. If they say "don't you care?" I shout "NOPE".

I'm a volunteer and although this is their job, they chose it. And it's always for the big companies that make a profit rather than a meaningful charity.

If any become rude or aggressive I have a tendency to snap... And apparently I'm quite intimidating looks-wise so they tend to back down instantly. Takes a lot of pushing for that to happen though.

I will even intervene for friends/strangers walking up and saying to the 'victim' "go on, you head off and do your shopping have a good day" because then the chugger focus' on me and I can fob them off instantly... Kinda satisfying

Haha what a lad

I tell every chugger the same same thing:

I won't be donating another penny to charity until they all calm the fuck down.

It's not just chuggers. It's also the constant adverts and the sodding bags - I get one a day. They need to chill.

The cynical part of me suspects it's all one company anyway.

I just say 'I've already made my charity committments for this financial year.' It seems to actually stop most of them pretty quickly.

these are sales jobs, they could just as easily be selling you new windows or a new electricity supplier. They are trained in these tactics, because they often work. "So you dont care about children with cancer then?" often illicits "Well of course I do!" which leads to "Well for £2 a month you would be helping those children, its only £2 and yet you dont want to give that tiny amount to help children who are going through chemotherapy...."

Hard as it is, the best answer to "Dont you care about....?" is "No, I dont".

Foslady

My mum was the coordinator for her churches CA collection, and they have stopped doing it this year for the same reason.

Infuriating!

I am a LP on benefits but live in a 'naice' part of town so if they come to my door they assume I have spare money (I wish!). If I'm at my nearest town at the mall, it's relentless (I've actually complained to the mall about it on several occasions as I know others have). I'm also registered with tps.

I actually hope people that work for charities see this thread and learn that these tactics are not helping their fundraising!

I am not giving my full bank details to a stranger at my door or in the street!

In addition I've been educated on mn and other forum and in real life about the unethical behaviour of some charities, so I like to research the ones I do donate to/support. On the rare occasion I do have a little extra I'll donate, bit mostly I volunteer my time or help with petitions or raising awareness ofnthe issues they are dealing with, write to my MP etc.

The 'don't you care' attitude would piss me off! I care about a great many things that create difficulties for people but we each have personal experiences which mean that certain charities will appeal to us more than others. Even billionaires can't give to everyone!

When they ask "don't you care about....?"

Do you care about x? Really? Or are you more interested in the commission?

I tell them I will make a one off donation but not a DD. So if they would like to leave me details of charity I will donate via their website.

If you donate by DD in tesponse to chuggers in some cases the whole 1st years donations goes on paying for someone to knock on your door and harrass you. At the end of the year they then phone you up and ask you to give a bit more each month.

Don't he NHS (tax payer - us) pay for the chemo though ?

What are these charities for?

I had a very aggressive Cancertainly Research UK man at my door while I was single with dd. He kept his foot on my door step so I couldn't close it! Rabbiting on about how we all risk cancer and what if it was my dd? I got annoyed at that point and told him I knew they were the worst charity for milking cancer research labs for profit so why didn't he remove his foot or I WOULD WITH MY FUCKING HEAVY DOOR! He scarpered not proud of my actions but it was a sick thing to say while my little 3 year old was standing behind me.

Cancertainly? Wtf auto correct? That isn't evenue a word.

I was in town with my dad a few years ago.
A chugger from a pretty well known charity actually stopped him in the street with the line ''how much do you earn sir''

My dads reply was to ask them how much the CEO of the charity earned?! (Implying maybe the CEO could afford a pay cut to contribute more money for the charity)

Nota I'd have had the cheeky fucker lifted for threatening behaviour wtf!

I did consider it but didn't feel threatened iykwim. He struck me as very young and awkward. He looked scared out of his wits when I yelled and shoved the door.

I had 2 monthly contributions set up, The Red Cross and RSPB. Last year my husband lost his job & I decided to cancel them both.
BOOP to the RSPB who replied "Okay, thank you for your support up to now" (lovely).
The Red Cross responded by phoning to ask for TWICE as much money in a really pressuring way. They pointed out that other people were worse off than me, and they would also help ME if my home was flooded etc. I refused, saying we were worried about our new financial situation after the redundancy. I felt harassed in my own home (by a charity I have always supported!) Eventually the caller reduced her request to a pound more than I was giving already. I just asked my bank to stop all money going to them. It was awful.

I had this with Amnesty International a few years ago. I'd heard about some worrying practices they used to extract donations, so asked if they had some literature I could take away to find out more about what they do before deciding to donate. I got a rather sniffy response of 'It's actually against our policy to spend large amounts of money on producing leaflets when that money could go to help people?' (It know that isn't a question, but that's how she spoke.) I responded that I never give to charities based purely on what I'm told in the street. When she asked why I responded, 'it's my policy'.

Since then 'it's just my policy I'm afraid' has been my stock response to any company asking why I won't buy/donate/sign up. They're quick enough to use the same excuse in response to any awkward question.

when I was a student we regularly had charity workers knocking on our door and I was genuinely skint.

I apologised to the young bloke who was asking me to spare £5 a month and I said I genuinely couldn't afford it as I was a student - he said really? I bet you can afford "gear" though can't you (i.e drugs!) erm... wtf?! Cheeky sod! slammed the door in his face.

The last door to door chap we had began with the line - "Oh hello, you look tired!"
I didn't feel I needed to be Britishly polite about telling him where to go. I also had someone else arrive a week later to tell me all about a new charity. I told him I don't do DD's, but am happy to make one off donations occasionally. He told me he wasn't collecting money, or asking for DD's. He just wanted to prattle on at me for as long as possible about this charity. Why?
Thankfully my baby woke up just at the right moment and I got rid of him.
They seem to have cut down on the amount of chuggers in my town centre, only one lot last time I went in and they weren't proper chuggers, just the collecting small donations in a bucket. I don't mind that and they were very friendly and not aggressive at all.

There are some dignified collectors mind you. There's a lady in Glasgow with a very debilitating disability who simply stands ( when she's well enough ) with her bucket. I always donate and we chat. She answers questions about

Finger slipped sorry. About her illness and what the charity does for her. On Monday I saw two women, one young one maybe my age, both standing quietly in the city centre collecting for Rape Crisis. No chugging at all just a few leaflets and buckets. Couldn't walk past that. The pressuring charities do these ones a real disservice

I had a guy from Barnardos charity knock on my door and asking for a donation. I said a polite 'no' adding that I already have standing orders for a couple of charities and also donated to WaterAid earlier that day. He persisted (albeit nicely) that all my neighbours were very generous to donate. That made saying 'no' again even easier.

I say to them 'Well if we had the DEATH PENALTY in this country you wouldn't have to collect money as, instead of taxpayers paying 44 grand a year to keep murderers in jail if they were hanged all the money saved could go to your charity'
I love seeing the looks on their faces

AJ279 - That reminds me of when I was a student, I had not a penny to my name and some child abuse charity tried to get me to sign up. I said I can't, I have barely got any money for myself. The guy chased me up the road shouting "DO YOU NOT CARE ABOUT CHILDREN BEING ABUSED?!". Made me look like a child abuser and people were looking at me in disgust. I was really really upset :(