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Original poster

To send my toddler to nursery with takeaway curry?!

217 replies

Mooey89 · 15/05/2016 19:29

I send my 3 year old DS to nursery with lunch and tea. Usually a sandwich/something on toast and then leftovers from the night before, spaghetti bolognaise, shepherds pie etc.
Tonight DP and I are having curry (takeaway) - non spicy vegetable based.
There's bloody shitloads left over!
He eats anything and everything, loves curry when I make one, very confident he will eat it.

DP said it would be an 'epic parenting fail' to send him with it, I think it's fine as a one off...

AIBU?

OP posts:
mrsc118 · 16/05/2016 13:57

Oh god I would. Waste not want not I say. As long as its in a microwavable container.

doubleginplease · 16/05/2016 13:59

I wouldn't.

sleeponeday · 16/05/2016 14:00

I think a PP is confused about which thread they should be on.

bigkidsdidit · 16/05/2016 14:04

Neither of my sons' nurseries have had kitchens big enough to cook so I've always sent in packed dinners. Including rice! No one has ever batted an eyelid.

AndTakeYourPenguinWithYou · 16/05/2016 14:05

MN is weird sometimes. Regularly giving your toddler a giant sausage roll and a Fruit Shoot for lunch, fine. Processed fishsticks and chips for dinner, fine. Only drinks squash, fine. But a one-off takeaway veg curry, how terrible

Why do people say this shit, as if every thread is answered by the same people? It's not a hive mind, ffs, its different people answering different questions!

And if you think anyone on MN ever said that regularly giving giant sausage rolls and fruit shoots to toddlers was fine, you're even more confused than you appear.

MummyRocketButterfly · 16/05/2016 14:08

Your definently NOT crap OP!!
I'd do the same and have done in the past. Like others have said rice reheated isn't good but the curry.... Yeah go for it!! Just because someone else can't see THEMSELVES doing it or giving it to their child doesn't mean others shouldn't do the same!! Each to their own Smile
If it was me and my kids would eat curry I'd send it in xx

bigkidsdidit · 16/05/2016 14:08

And MrsArch those nurseries I did dinners for were normal private nurseries, just small ones.

How would you not have time to send something in for a child in nappies? I just send leftovers of whatever j cook for dh and my dinner.

ipsogenix · 16/05/2016 14:10

But thanks for letting me know I'm crap.

They should sell a t-shirt with this on the front. I feel as though in 30 years we'll all look back and realise that this was the generation when we all felt as though we were crap all the time.

EatShitDerek · 16/05/2016 14:13

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LittleLionMansMummy · 16/05/2016 14:17

Honestly op, it's fine. I have would do this as a one off. And by the way, the fact that that your toddler eats curry, an acquired taste by anyone's standards, suggests you're most definitely not crap. I wouldn't be at all surprised if your toddler eats a healthy, nutritious, balanced diet and tries new things readily. As a one off it really won't kill him and it is definitely not an epic parenting fail unless he's given it every day.

PregnantAndEngaged · 16/05/2016 14:19

And avocados, EatShitDerek! lol

MrsArchchancellorRidcully · 16/05/2016 14:35

bigkidsdidit ah I see - DC's nursery was big and in the grounds of the local college so they shared the kitchen with the college. I didn't realise how lucky we were!

And yes, kids ate what we ate at home but the nursery did them MUCH better food than ours! Way more veg, lots of foods that I couldn't be arsed to cook myself were tricky and interesting (eg home made salmon and cod fishcakes.). They ate so well and that left DH and I to just give them sandwiches etc when we both got home from work. Working full time, getting a baby and a toddler, a nappy bag, my briefcase and laptop and suit jacket out of the door - adding on one more bag for food might not sound much but it might have been the straw ya know!

Original poster
Mooey89 · 16/05/2016 14:41

mrsarch his old nursery cooked food, this one is attached to a school.

It's a lovely nursery but if I had the choice is love them to provide the food!

I'm a single parent and work full time (DP mentioned above is not his dad and doesn't live with us) and the constant planning of one hot meal and one cold is such a ball ache!

OP posts:
Grinandbearingit · 16/05/2016 14:58

It's restaurant curry so doubt there's a crazy amount of salt (unlike shop bought ones)!

Do it! You'd feed it to him at home? Why not nursery!

elh1605 · 16/05/2016 14:58

1st-you're not crap, ignore all those saying you are!!
2nd-as a nanny I wouldn't reheat a takeaway for any of my charges because of the potential food poisoning risks so personally wouldn't recommend it.
3rd-your child do as you wish. If you're fine with nursery reheating it then go for it-No1 rule of parenting: Don't always listen to Mums netters,go with your instincts😃

Joolsy · 16/05/2016 15:09

Worra - they only get 2 choices or bring a packed lunch at school and seem to manage ok.

Rowanhart · 16/05/2016 15:33

Its absolutely fine. Don't give it a second thought.

PS you are not crap. The only people who are crap are those shaming you for providing two decent meals for you kid.

PPS Sometimes my 3 year old has, shock horror, takeaway food. It's called 'Mammy works hard and can't be bothered to cook nights). She even eats korma style curries sometimes. And she is the healthiest, happiest kid you could ever care to meet. Anything in moderation other than booze....

Ilovetorrentialrain · 16/05/2016 15:35

I wouldn't only because rehearing take away food is bad practice food hygiene-wise.

crazywriter · 16/05/2016 15:38

I would. The once isn't going to do your 3 year old much harm. In your own container and say it's homemade (hope yours isn't as bad as mine for telling the truth haha).

This is why I don't post anything on here regarding my child's diet. Too many people would try to say I'm a bad mum. I'll go with what my DD is like in the house and outside. Never had a problem with her and she loves the curries we get from takeaways as long as it's not a spicy one. She also eats a whole bag of prawn crackers from the Chinese to herself when she gets a chance.

letthefundusbegin · 16/05/2016 15:40

My main concern would be food poisoning if it wasn't reheated properly, rice is notoriously dodgy.

MrMainwaringsWife · 16/05/2016 15:42

Bloody hell , I think it's a brilliant idea
Wish I'd thought of doing this when my children were younger !

mediocremumatherbest · 16/05/2016 15:51

Don't they provide food? My dd is 2 and attends a private nursery where all meals are included. I've got to be honest it's not something I'd do, but I'm not you so do what you like love Grin

mediocremumatherbest · 16/05/2016 15:56

Sorry just read through the thread and that answered my question. Bit baffled why he has tea at a school nursery? My eldest daughter goes to school nursery and takes a packed lunch and she's so fussy, I'd secretly love to pack her off with veg curry but she'd never eat it. From one single mum to another I salute you! I hate food waste and a nice vegetable curry seems perfectly legitimate. If he'll eat it there's no problem really, the fact it bothers you enough to worry and ask the question says it all. You're a fab mum.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 16/05/2016 15:58

My Gd aged just over 12 months will eat just about anything, including spicy, and I'm sure she's had Indian at least once. She's certainly had my (adult) chilli con carne. If dd had to,provide nursery food - hers provides it - I don't think she'd have a fit at the idea of giving her curry once in a while.

UmbongoUnchained · 16/05/2016 16:03

My toddler has been eating takeaway since she started weaning. Where can I order my crap mum Tshirt?

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