female cliques

[TerrifiedMothertobe]

There are some lovely women where I live. Really lovely. But then there are some really catty and unwelcoming women. I don't want to get in the clique, and am clearly not welcome into a well established friendship group. But some of them I really would like to socialise with but not the others where there is not mutual interest.

Our children are similar ages but paths rarely cross due to childcare arrangements. I am no shrinking violet but don't want conflict, but feel totally unsure how to make inroads.

Why are some women so mean?!

I really don't think it's misogynistic to comment on that the majority of women you've encountered display specific behaviours.

I tend to get on better with men than women. That's not sexist.

Why do you think you get on better with men than women?

Go on the thread about how the abuse being shouted from cars, by men, at women (and girls), insults and sexually threatening, whether they're with children, or not.

There's tails of just general critiquing, by men of Women.

You surely can balance it out by how you and the men in your life are similarly harassed by other Women?

Maybe they're just doing the same as you and not being cliquey. Just mixing with the people they want to.
The whispering and bitching is a different matter. It's puerile whoever does it.
To the pp who said her dh was given a spoon with shitstirrer on it - that's actually an insult. I don't think it was meant fondly.

Cleaty the women I have met tend to play more social games and don't share my interests.

That's not to say women who share my interests and lack of social norms don't exist. I exist! Just that on average there are less of them, something I blame partly on socialisation.

tigger

Really

Nnnnooooo seriously

Obviously its an insult

Men have been way meaner to me than women ever have. How have they got the "straightforward" reputation whilst we are conniving witches? Depressing.

Because, historically, groups of women together terrify the patriarchy, so they thought up ways to ridicule us.

It is depressing though.

Interesting to see such a mix of views. I have some brilliant female friends and my oldest friend I have known since birth and am still close to best friends from school. I don't have an issue with women in general but, it would just be nice if people. Were more straight forward and less catty.

Is that so much to expect?

Im suspicious of women who say they prefer men as friends it has an arrogance about it anyway these women dont have a clique they have a friendship you dont need to be friends with them all its fine to just have a few you actually like and sodthe rest