To think life is bloody hard going

[midlifehope]

..... even though some people swan through it (or have the appearance that they do). I'm inspired by the what are you worrying about thread and the day I've had, where,

newly sitting baby fell backwards and bumped his head (feel guilty I hadn;t propped him up properly).
Fell out with DH
Breaks almost failed on the car
Spent too much money (on maternity so I am skint) in the supermarket, got all dazed by all the choice, and bought the wrong things, as well as what I wanted.
Was late to a meeting, and when I got there, baby cried all the way through.
DS 2 (4) bit ds 1 in the car on the way home from school.

I could go on.......

How hard do you find daily life on a scale of 1-10 (1 being easy-pease, 10 being impossible)?

I have good days and bad, good is about a 5, bad can be 8 or 9. Just feel overwhelmed a lot of the time which (probably due to low level depression) just makes me feel completely unmotivated which then leads to guilt that I'm not doing more or even doing anything which leads to deeper depression and even less motivation. Hate feeling so negative but can't seem to change it, when I look at my life from the outside it doesn't look too bad but feels shitty from the inside if that makes sense. Money is a constant worry, nothing I do feels good enough, lots I want to do but have absolutely no get up and go. Need a rocket under me.

Good day is a 3/4 which is fine actually. I get rather anxious if things are going too smoothly. If u have nothing to occupy my propensity for worrying then I will simply conjure up a catastrophe, literally from the ether.....

God I sound mad.

Bad days can be a 9. Money worries, worries about my children, my ageing mother, work responsibilities, never ending bloody housework, lack of time to socialise.

I expect it's similar for most people.

Life is a struggle, it's not simple anymore.
We're conditioned to expect idyllic perfection but we don't live in Utopia.

On a hiding to nothing really aren't we?

An average day is a 6-7, but its been worse this week as the Council Tax have fucked up my direct debits again and sent me wildly overdrawn.

I would say 7-8. I am lucky not to have money worries and I have a wonderful DH and 2 great kids, but my health is also not great and I am in pain most of the time, which makes it hard to enjoy the good parts. Then I feel even worse because I don't appreciate what I have. I feel so guilty that I spend so much time doing nothing and I hate myself for not taking control of the things I can do to possibly manage my pain, like exercise. The everyday grind is just so hard when I am in pain. Low-pain days are so lovely, probably a 2-3, but they are rarer and rarer these days.

It does seem like life just comes easily for some people. I was never like that even before I got sick. I always struggled with keeping up with the house, bills, phone calls, and all other personal admin stuff.

LIfe, I find around the 2 mark, but that's almost solely down to DH and DC. Being 'me' is more of a 7.

Not a good idea reading this thread at this time of the morning when DD has woken approx two hours early for a night feed.

I'm going to use the power of positive thinking to intend tomorrow to be a 1 :-)

Bea - I get you. Pain is horrible and sucks the life out of you if it goes on long enough. I pray for relief for you, if you will accept my prayer.
Feel free to PM me if you ever want to chat about pain management techniques - have had quite a few, including spinal cord stimulator. It might be enlightening for both of us.
You sound like your life has lots of love and good things in it but you need more ways to get the balance between acceptable and unacceptable Pain days.
Take a from me and out your feet up while you drink it

I'd say it's a 93 most days!

I'm in a similar position to Bea and Choccybadger. I'm lucky to have a wonderful DH and 2 lovely children, but have been ill for last 8 months which has sucked the joy out of life for me 😢

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Sorry to hear that Fanjo 💐

Thanks simmi :)

Probably 1 - 2. We are poor but healthy and just found out I am pregnant wirh second dc. Dp is wrking 2 jobs to get us out of debt and has really made to effort to be extra sweet to me after learning about the pregnancy. After a big illness last year, just having our health is enough to make me happy.

for everyone going through tough times

Mostly around a 7. I'm fortunate in many ways. I have a good job, a nice house and a good relationship. But day to day life is hard. We both work full time in full on jobs and have a toddler. We are permanently exhausted and have very little time to take care of ourselves. Work is often stressful (lawyer) and I feel like I am on a bit of a treadmill. A typical day is toddler care, commute, full on stressful work day, commute, toddler care, toddler to bed, dinner and chores, an hour brain dead in front of the telly, collapse into bed then get up and do it all again.