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Fresh Facebook Hell

55 replies

Cutecat78 · 10/05/2016 17:04

Someone has tagged me as an "awesome" mum and asked me to post a photo which makes me proud to be a mum

I am a FB addict love to while away my time nosing through FB but I HATE this shit but then feel like I am offending by not complying sap-.

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JeffFromTheDailyMail · 10/05/2016 20:52

I never get tagged in these. Maybe because all of my photos are of me drinking. Even so, I can't see that the other mums are better than me just because they bang on about how much they love their kids all the time. I slur about how much I love mine at least once a month

TheFuckersBitingMe · 10/05/2016 20:53

I got tagged in one of those a few months back and had to post my favourite things about motherhood. I posted a bottle of Hendricks, a Double Decker (chocolate, not a shitey bus) and a page from 'Go The Fuck To Sleep' (my favourite passage, where it says "How come you can do all this other great shit, but you can't lie the fuck down and sleep" because DS2 was like a baby from the loins of Satan and never slept for his first 4 years and someone bought me the book thinking they were witty). I don't think I understood the challenge very well.

JeffFromTheDailyMail · 10/05/2016 20:53

Disclaimer - my above post is lighthearted. I'm a frustratingly sober shit mum

CheekyGit · 10/05/2016 20:53

oh noI am sure meant in kindest way but....

TweeterandtheMonkeyman · 10/05/2016 20:53

Grin I think people know better than to tag me in this kind of crap or they do not believe me to be an awesome mum Shock Grin

TheFuckersBitingMe · 10/05/2016 20:55

Jeff you sound amazing! I have some friends that do those passive-aggressive "post if you have a son you love" bollocks which imply that parents not reposting such dull fuckery aren't actually that keen on their offspring. It pleases me to post pictures of wine glasses in various exotic locations around the house instead.

HelenF35 · 10/05/2016 20:57

I just ignore these things. They annoy the shit out me.

Hassled · 10/05/2016 20:58

I have never been tagged as an awesome mum. Dammit.

I got tagged in a "be the next person to list your favourite albums and what they mean to you and what you were wearing when you first heard Track 4" bollocks recently and just pretended I hadn't seen it.

sharknad0 · 10/05/2016 21:03

so much negativity, why the hatred ladies? You hate it, then just ignore and move on, or remove Facebook. You want to put a cute photo, a funny photo, or one that makes you happy, then go for it. A friend of mine just put a photo of her finishing the London marathon a couple of weeks ago, one put a photo of a birthday cake she made with her kids, one a pic of night cuddle. There's nothing that is remotely aggressive towards anyone. I really cannot understand the anger about something so trivial.

JeffFromTheDailyMail · 10/05/2016 21:13

shark that's a very grown up attitude. But if you don't get angry, where's the justification for writing sarcastic and passive aggressive statuses after too many glasses of wine? thefucker I feel if we were Facebook friends your exoticly located wine may get my first honest 'like'

JeffFromTheDailyMail · 10/05/2016 21:13

*exotically?

sepa · 10/05/2016 21:16

I hate shit like that. Pisses me off. DD was 2 days old before someone sent me something American to then send back if I thought they were an awesome mum. DD was 2 days old. How did they know I wasn't going to drop her down the toilet within 5 seconds of being home???
Just ignore it

PaulAnkaTheDog · 10/05/2016 21:16

so much negativity, why the hatred ladies?

Because it's a load of bollocks.

RobberBride · 10/05/2016 21:19

On behalf of many of the ladies on the Infertility board, can I say how much we appreciate you not spreading that crap further on FB.

sharknad0 · 10/05/2016 21:20

I have seen a few photos showing bottles of various alcohol too, I understand people rolling their eyes or being sarcastic, it's the anger I don't really get. Some people make it sound like they have been personally insulted, why? Confused rhetorical question

Winterbiscuit · 10/05/2016 21:22

RobberBride well said.

Cutecat78 · 10/05/2016 21:23

I share my kids achievements on FB I hope I am not Vom inducing.

I don't need to share this shit or share if I love my kids, sister, nan.

It's bollocks and smarmy and unreal.

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sharknad0 · 10/05/2016 21:28

Whilst I don't think anyone denies how painful infertility can be, it doesn't mean that women who are lucky to have kids should feel ashamed or need to hide that they have children. People post about themselves, not against you.

PurpleDaisies · 10/05/2016 21:31

I don't need to share this shit or share if I love my kids, sister, nan.

It's bollocks and smarmy and unreal.

I absolutely agree with you. Soppy vomit inducing nonsense. A few of these popped up on my timeline today. Thank goodness for the "hide post" function.

NannawifeofBaldr · 10/05/2016 21:40

shark It's not anger surely, it's piss taking.

I'd have been happy to see your friend's pic of her marathon achievement, her cake and her cuddle. That's all nice and the stuff that facebook's made of.

However copy and paste type posts saying "99% of people won't share this" or insincere "if you love your daughter/son/dog" memes are just a bit annoying and a little performance parenting for me.

I don't need to tell the FB world I love my DD or DS - I tell them everyday.

JeffFromTheDailyMail · 10/05/2016 21:48

The thing is where do you stop. First it's 'share if you love your kids' which, obviously you do, so why share, then it's 'share if you hate cancer' I hate cancer, it has stolen/is stealing many close friends/relatives, I still don't want to share it, then you get the political ones and before you know it, no one posts anything they want to anymore, they just have a series of weird pictures with writing on them describing what a great parent they are/how much they hate AIDS/how we should allow more immigration but leave the EU and ban Muslims. And no one really cares, they just want more 'likes' that other people's posts. I must delete Facebook

SteamTrainsRealAleandOpenFires · 10/05/2016 21:52

I resolutely ignore all of these and gradually people don't both tagging you, however I did manage to fit all 3 of my DC into a big box the other day so that could be just the kind of excuse I'd need to publish this domestic triumph

Was there a label on the box, with "To Abu Dhabi"? Grin

toldmywrath · 10/05/2016 21:54

sharknad0 have you seen all 3 films? They are so bad, they're good. --slight derail-

toldmywrath · 10/05/2016 21:55
Grin
sharknad0 · 10/05/2016 22:03

toldmywrath

I haven't yet, but I will Grin

might start a new FB movie challenge whilst I am at it, when it reaches your newsfeed, you'll know where it started