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AIBU?

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To send him to nursery?

25 replies

WellErrr · 10/05/2016 08:17

DS is 3 and due at nursery at 9.30am for the morning.

He is fine.

The rest of the family have had a stomach bug over the weekend though, for which smaller sibling was hospitalised due to dehydration. Smaller sibling is still shitting white water.
DH and I mainly recovered.

DS still defying the odds and seems absolutely fine.

WIBU to send him in from the house of ill?

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civilfawlty · 10/05/2016 08:19

Honestly, I don't think I would. If it was sever enough to hospitalise one child, then I think that demands an extra degree of caution. Presumably, he could just not have started exhibiting symptoms yet?
Happy to retract if someone with medical knowledge disagrees!

Verticalvenetianblinds · 10/05/2016 08:21

I wouldn't personally, but many would which is why these things spread

FutureGadgetsLab · 10/05/2016 08:21

Please don't send him in. If he passes it on even despite not being ill himself, he could make some other children really ill. You don't know if anyone is immunocompromised or needs to have medical treatment and catching a bug could really mess them up.

strawberrypenguin · 10/05/2016 08:22

Hmm not sure. When you say you and DH mostly recovered are you 48 hours clear? If not you really shouldn't be going into nursery to drop off anyway. I'd probably keep him home today and send tomorrow if he was still ok

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WellErrr · 10/05/2016 08:28

DH and I 48 hours clear just still tired.

I thought 'don't send him' but anyone I've asked says it's the sick/shit itself that carries the bug, so until he's actually started he's not contagious, like chickenpox or something would be.
So if that's true I'm tempted because it would give me some much needed time off to concentrate on the poorly baby. I'm also pregnant and knackered after the weekend's adventures and could do without a hyper toddler around for a few hours.

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FutureGadgetsLab · 10/05/2016 08:31

WellErr I don't think that's true, if it was how would sickness bugs spread around adults? I doubt people in the office are touching shitty nappies and not washing their hands!

And what if he starts when he's there? I understand you need the break but I would be livid if someone sent a child into nursery from a house with D&V and my DS ended up catching it.

Do you have any friends/relatives who could help out today?

HippyPottyMouth · 10/05/2016 08:32

He's not ill. I'd send him, but maybe give the school a heads-up that there's been a bug in the family so to call if he feels a bit off-colour, rather than waiting for him to actually puke.

SouthDownsSunshine · 10/05/2016 08:35

I'd send him, giving his hands a good clean before handover, and asking nursery to call at the first sign of illness.

I would rarely get the tummy bugs the rest of my family did.

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WellErrr · 10/05/2016 08:57

Well now I don't know what to do.

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icklekid · 10/05/2016 08:59

He's not ill, you've all been sickness free for 48h so yes I would send in. I'm sure you could do with the rest to fully recover. If he's complaining of a dodgy tummy I wouldn't though just incase...

drinkyourmilk · 10/05/2016 09:01

Call the nursery and ask ?

Imnotaslimjim · 10/05/2016 09:04

For some sickness bugs, it is mostly the vomit etc that carries the bug but a lot of them are airborne, that is how they spread

TBH though, babies tend to take a long time to get back to normal after a bad bout of diarrhoea so I wouldn't be too concerned about them still being "ill". I'd ring the nursery, explain the situation and ask their advice.

RumbleMum · 10/05/2016 09:09

If he was showing any sign of being off colour then I'd keep him home, but otherwise I'd do as SouthDowns suggested. Sounds like you've had a rough ride.

paxillin · 10/05/2016 09:14

I don't think that's true, if it was how would sickness bugs spread around adults? They spread because 40-60% of adults do not wash their hands after going to the loo .

FutureGadgetsLab · 10/05/2016 09:15

Paxillin

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WellErrr · 10/05/2016 09:15

We all started on Saturday.

Am I right to think he probably would have had it by now?

He does have the constitution of a small rhino.

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FutureGadgetsLab · 10/05/2016 09:16

He could still pass it on Well.

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WellErrr · 10/05/2016 09:17

That's what I thought too paxillin.

I'm emetophobic, formerly severely so, so I like to know the risks with these things and I always believed it was purely shit/sick spread. Or coughing in someone's face directly after being sick etc.

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bostonkremekrazy · 10/05/2016 09:23

FutureGagetslab - bugs are also spread as they are carried on the breathe of the person who has been ill - the spores can then spread via the air....

and yes adults do not wash their hands after going to the loo.....and the next person uses the same door handle and so it spreads!

OP send him in, have a break - one of my LO's never catches a bug even if everyone else in our house does.....ask nursery to phone you if he seems to be going off colour. If you are 48 hours clear chances are he won't get it now.

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WellErrr · 10/05/2016 09:41

I'm not taking him.

Probably being over cautious but there we are.

DH away until the weekend and no more nursery until Friday

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Ludwaysl · 10/05/2016 09:46

I'd send him in. My DS has the constitution of an ox and never picks up illnesses, even when people around him are falling like flies.

FutureGadgetsLab · 10/05/2016 09:46

FutureGagetslab - bugs are also spread as they are carried on the breathe of the person who has been ill - the spores can then spread via the air....

That's what I thought. I'm shocked at adults not washing their hands!

OP you've done the right thing.

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WellErrr · 10/05/2016 09:52

The person has to have been ill ie vomited recently to pass it on through exhalation, as it would be the remaining particles of vomit exhaled that would carry the virus.

But I digress. He ain't going

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ProudAS · 10/05/2016 10:21

Sick bugs are not airborne in the same way that colds etc are. They can be found in airborne droplets though (e.g from projectile vomiting or not putting down the loo lid when flushing ) which is slightly different.

Seems sensible to send him home as soon as he feels ill before he actually vomits. Hopefully that won't be necessary and OP can have a much needed rest.

ProudAS · 10/05/2016 10:22

Sorry cross posted. Hope he doesn't run you off your feet OP.

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