Would IBU to name my miscarried baby boy?

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We will try again...

So, I miscarried my little boy at 14 weeks, so still very young. DH doesn't believe he was really big enough or old enough to particularly have a name and properly thought about as our baby. He doesn't talk about him like he was our baby/even a baby at all, which is upsetting for me.

I want him to have a name and a grave area, I want to talk about him like he is a baby and was ours, not just a failed pregnancy.

Who is in the right?

We had 3 miscarriages. The first got a rather unisex name (which we would have used for a son). He also got a memorial service in a grand cathedral! I was talking to a canon of the cathedral about the loss and he said that we could have a service in the ancient little chapel of the guardian angels.

My husband and I wrote a short service and bought some coloured candles from the farmers market and had a proper farewell. We had no remains to bury (just an awful lot of blood and an emergency trip to theatre) so it was good to have a tangible goodbye; thinking about it that chapel is the place I would connect with my remembrance of the babies we lost.

We were very lucky and have 2 children now.

Very sorry for your loss and God bless for the future.

No of course not, hope you are okay

Omg you don't have to check this OP. So sorry for your loss . I think it's lovely as although your baby was and is obviously such an important thing to you, naming him gives him a bit more of a place and significance doesn't it. I totally get why you want to give him a name, he was your little baby. It's not, weird or strange or wrong, it's lovely.

Your husband is dealing with his grief in a totally different way to you, that's fine too. If he doesn't after on it then maybe keep this part just for you.