Regular poster who has NC for privacy reasons. Me and my DM have a close relationship, but she is really getting on my nerves lately.
I'm late 20s, been to university, run my own business, have raised two DC and financially independent.
I've been really keen to do some travelling lately. I've got friends all over the world and I'm looking to go out to the states this summer, with DC if needed. My DM however is extremely paranoid about terrorists, bombs and things happening to me. Last year we had an argument because I went to London shopping for the weekend, and she thought it was 'too risky' and then snapped and said 'fine, do what you like, you clearly don't think anything through, why do you like putting yourself in unnecessary danger?' which then put a dampener on the weekend for me - especially as she was calling every few hours to check I hadn't been blown up. So when I told her today that I... gasp ...plan on going outside of England, she started giving me a lecture about it 'just not being safe' and 'lots of planes are crashing lately'. I've said that I'm much more likely to be in a RTA in my constant sleep deprived state than on a plane, but she refuses to listen.
It's wearing a bit thin lately. I've got the whole of July/August off this year, and have enough saved up to go on this trip. It's not even in a big city, it's a rural coastal area of the states and I'd only be gone for four days max. It just really grates on me that at my age, having raised my own family and lived independently for many years that I'm 'not allowed'. It would be the same if I was even going anywhere more than 20 miles from my hometown! I want to travel and experience different cultures, and show the world to my DC. Surely, as an adult, I should be entitled to do that?
I don't want to fall out with her. DF is the same with the 'danger' lectures, but to a lesser extent. How would others go about this? She is not controlling in any other way, it's just when it comes to travelling and the potential risks.