How do I get myself out of this one?

[Ivanabefree]

DD was invited to a party at the home of a 7 yr old girl, who is pleasant enough, but who family is made up of different fathers and at least one of these fathers has been in jail for GBH recently. Not sure exactly who would be there and it's a 3 hour party, and the party girl has told me herself that she isn't supposed to be "alone" with her father. I lied by txt and said my DD had sickness and diarhoea, and took her horse riding to make up for her missing the party after explaining my reasons to her. Whilst at horse riding and during the party, the mum and 2 friends knock at our door saying DD was being missed and my idiotic husband said she'd gone horse riding. I am now completely in the shit. Do I come clean, expand the lie and say DH did know what he was saying or just emigrate? I was hoping not to hurt anyone's feelings but have done a proper job of it. School gate is going to be soooo awkward on Mon.

Why would the parent come looking for your dd mid party.
Hmm lots of different Fathers and one just got out of jail for GBH. With lots of Fathers I assume there would be lots of dc to look after and a really big party

I'd say you took her out riding as she was climbing the walls with being in with her D&V and although she was desperate to go to the party and seemed much better you wouldn't allow it as she had last been sick too few hours before (24 hour rule and all that). You reasoned she wouldn't be able to infect the horses so it seemed a good idea.

Meh, be honest.

Try it.

Frankly I would not worry about it at all. You made the right decision for your child; she had a good time. You do not owe the other child's parents an explanation for why your DD was not at the party - it is not a court of law! You tried to make a kindly excuse and that is to your credit. No-one could have predicted that these people would come round to try and get your DD to go to the party - why would they do that if they thought she had D & V? This really sounds like the sort of family you could well do without in your life. You have nothing to reproach yourself with - we all use an occasional white lie to spare someone's feelings now and again.

I think you've been really horrible. That poor girl. Bad enough that her father's like that, but then her friend's mother thinks she doesn't want her daughter mixing with people like that. The chance of him being at the party was always really slim. The chance of a lot of people opting out of the party is really high. The chance of that poor girl being upset today is just as high.

It's cruel to the little girl to say yes then no. Did you tell DD the real reason you changed your mind? If you did, expecting your DD to keep that secret is really inappropriate. I have a 7 yr old and I would never tell her that her friends dad went to prison and that's why she can't go to the party.
I hope you at least get a really nice present for her, that is the least you should do. And ask her for a play date. Yes, now you've done something really crap, the lies you've been given seem very plausible so knock yourself out.

If you were going to lie to get out of a party you needed to claim double booking from the start not cancel at short notice. I don't understand why you couldn't just take her to the party and stay with her. 7 is still young enough to claim your DD gets a bit shy at parties and just needs to know mum is hanging around in the background somewhere.