To be annoyed at doing nothing?!

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Ok AIBU or is he?

We both work full time, office hours, it's Saturday and it's gorgeous weather and he doesn't want to do anything. He is just sat on the sofa reading his work book whilst the kids play. I've suggested going to an ice cream parlour that has farm animals etc, but no he is just sat there. Tomorrow we will be going to his parents house so not even like we can do anything then.
I'm feeling a bit depressed so have taken myself upstairs to lie on the bed. Crying a bit. :( feel pathetic.

I would absolutely leave him indoors whilst you enjoy yourselves.

You could always go though and leave him behind? I'm sure as you are opening the door to leave, he will change his mind!

Could you have taken the DC out yourself?

Unless there's a back story here I think it is a bit much crying because your dh doesn't want to go out for a couple of hours?

Although to answer your AIBU, no one is being unreasonable as neither wants to do what the other wants.

Why don't you go?

Take them out yourself.

When he mentions going to his parents tomorrow, just sit there.

I think it's just a build up. I have chronic pain and a mobility problems which means I sometimes struggle to take both children out on my own as I can't run around with them. It's flared up at the moment which really gets me down and I'm fed up of being a shit mum who can't even walk to the park with her kids :(

Bit of an over reaction on your part, I mean the crying part is there more to this? I work office hours and on a weekend often I just want to do sweet FA. I'm forever having people trying to guilt me for wanting to do this

Fair enough OP

My ex was awful for this, sometimes you don't want to go out alone with the DC as per usual. It's nice to have some help, spend time with your husband too. Use to drive me mad. He'd be out the door like a shot with his mates though

Can you arrange to go out on your own, "well you're here anyway so thought I'd leave DC with you?"

Can you compromise? He stays inside for an hour then you all go outside for a bit?

I think you should take yourself out for a coffee on your own.

Given your update, I would just go out myself.

He isn't being u, neither are you. Horses for courses.

Yep leave him with the kids and take yourself off somewhere nice.

I think I'm probably unreasonable in wanting to do something as a family and he doesn't, but I think tmw when he's wanting to spend the day at his mums it'll feel a bit annoying as we haven't done anything today (baring in mind we saw his parents on Monday and Friday just gone for a few hours).

My DH gets a little very grumpy if he doesn't get out and about on a Saturday and Sunday. I like to relax with a book or potter.

The DC are happy either way.

We keep everyone happy by a combination of planning and compromise eg we spent the morning clearing out the garage and he has now happily taken himself off to the dump and charity shops while I tidy MN.

YOU ARE NOT A SHIT MUM.

You are doing the beat you can. And yes it is good enough.

Maybe let the kids playing in the garden with water balloons and then make mini pizzas for tea?. DD is 3 and loves making her own pizza's!

Hope you feel better xxx

Thanks ladies. We done have a garden at the mo but will have soon as moving in a few weeks. I keep telling myself things will be better then as can sit in the garden whilst the kids run around.

I don't really know what's wrong I just feel so down and I can't see why. Other than the pain everything seems OK in life and have a lot to be happy about but it's like I just can't be:(

Why does he get to decide what you all as a family do?

Honestly I'm jealous you have s garden for the kids to play in. I have to go to the park or my parents for my DD to get outside play X