I didn't want to claim csa..

[Heyjude16]

But surely if your having another baby, you make sure your providing for the two you already have!?

Darling ex husband hasn't paid a penny for the children. Thinks it's acceptable to buy them a McDonald's and a blind bag once every few weeks. Or to really push the boat some primark canvas shoes when they need new shoes.

Today I message him asking for £10 to go towards sons new school shoes he desperately needs. He said no. As he is going to put £500 down on the pram him and his gf want for their new baby. He can't afford to give me anything as he has to pay for the pram, and his car.

He then tells me he wishes I were dead as it would be easier. 🙄

I haven't claimed csa because I felt sorry for him not having much money, but silly me!! He pays £400 a month just for his car!

He says he's buying his family the essentials he needs- meaning his new baby.

I'm so angry, especially for the kids. The know I can't afford everything. It breaks my heart. 😪

He wanted the kids this weekend so he could take them to the baby shop to pay for the pram!! 😡

Re him being a shit dad in other ways...

My own experience is that I wish 13 years ago when we lived not 5 mins walk from dd's dad and he didn't make an effort then, that I'd let him vanish outbof her life then... And dd agrees.

I've had nightmare dealing with him re money, visitation, how he speaks to dd, how he prioritises new children over her etc etc

Sometimes no dad is better!

Sod him spending £400 a month on a car - he should be getting a 1l Adam for £99 and giving you the extra £301 at the very least! He'll see soon enough how easy it is to shirk his responsibilities when the money's coming straight out his pay check

Definitely go to the csa and do everything you can, you've tried your very best to work with him and it's not worked.

Don't fall for his sob story. He chose to move far from work. Chose to have a £400 a month car. Chose to have a new baby, chose to buy a £500 pram. None of that is anything to do with your or your DC, you and they deserve what you're entitled to!