I am prob BU but...

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My daughter has been doing settling in sessions at childcare for a few weeks. She had one for a couple of hours this morning. Despite me saying she had a nap before I dropped her off and her information saying that she shouldn't nap again till after 12 I was told she 'fell asleep' for 30 mins about 10.45am. She is a nightmare of her routine is messed with and I've just had a 35 minute nightmare trying to get her down for her actual nap. AIBU to be thoroughly peeved? I didn't say much at the time but I did comment she would be a nightmare to get down for her nap now. Not sure if I should say something more. Any thoughts?

newmum Did you not see my post where keeping a baby awake is regarded as child cruelty?! It's not an opinion, it can be classed as abuse!
Not to mention the impact a grumpy baby will have on the cm and her other mindees. But hey so long as she's easy work for mum when she gets home!

I understand why you're peeved but yabu, really.

I do think YABU but as you said it is a learning curve.

When my toddler started nursery I expected her to continue with her morning and afternoon nap. I was a little taken aback when they said she'd just have one nap a day there but accepted it and she's adjusted well. I've had to learn to be more flexible as I realise if I want my exact needs met then I'd have to get a nanny or stay at home myself.

Honestly, she's not going to have the one on one time with your daughter so it's likely she's not being interacted with constantly.

Yes and no to you being unreasonable, you gave them instructions and they didn't follow to the letter, but also, you can't expect them to keep her awake, or wake her if she falls asleep. If you would like them to do that though, make sure you tell them.

Good luck X

I don't believe she was being engaged with properly. She has never fallen asleep at that time at home.

She was probably overtired from getting used to new environment. Or simply tired. Is this your first child at a creche? Because you may soon realize - to your benefit - that children behave differently in a different setting. I'm not sure what you expected them to do if she fell asleep spontaneously. Waking up and keeping up a little child awake normally results in a very cranky little person.
My DD refused to sleep in the afternoons once she was about 1.5. In the creche - no problem at all.
You are very BU.

Yabu, your routine sounds hugely restrictive. Why did she have to have another nap?

Routines only tend to be routines for a short while... they change as children get older / are exposed to different things. Maybe she's due a routine change / different nap time etc and it just coincided with being at the childcare.

For what it's worth we never tried to stick to routines really - I want you sleep when I'm tired, not when I'm allowed. Not sure why a baby can't sleep when tired just because it doesn't 'fit'