to not mention this?

[DuckAndPancakes]

It's a few weeks ago that this happened, but keep worrying I'm being an awful person... Even if family tell me otherwise.

DD's Dad ended up double paying maintenance over Easter weekend. I always have to chase him for the payment and had done so on the Friday, where it got paid. On the Monday, he came to take DD out for the day and as she got in the car said "oh I forgot about maintenance and I'm just putting it in now" whilst on his phone. Initial reaction was as was sure he had but thought maybe pregnancy brain had been confused. Checked my banking after they left and he had in fact paid on the Friday AND the Monday.

He pays £100 fortnightly which was assessed by the CSA a few years ago. He's since changed jobs several times but not mentioned anything about his earnings and I'm not allowed to ask as apparently it means that all I care about is money. I'm pretty sure if I told him/tell him that he will forfeit paying for another period instead.

He didn't pay over Christmas as he had booked time off and "didn't get paid" due to being self employed. Apparently, expecting him to factor maintenance into his needed weekly costs along side rent etc is unreasonable.

Help?

I don't think you noticed it, did you?

He pays a whole 50 quid a week towards his child? What a prince among men.

I wouldn't tell him. And if he ever realises and challenges it, I'd say, 'Oh I thought you'd finally realised that 100 quid a fortnight means every fortnight, and have finally paid for that missed time at Christmas.'

Yup, £50 a week. He earns (if maintenance figures are correct) the same amount as my DP who certainly spends a considerable amount more than that on DD. According to ex that is DPs "own fault for lumping up with" me.

There's no added extras there at all either, no help towards uniform/clothes etc... Though he has bought her a couple of pairs of shoes in the last 5 years.

I've had the attitude of "oh I'll just pretend I didn't notice" but everyone who knows me knows that I am absolutely obsessive with checking my banking.

I'm also kind of cross that someone can manage to forget and miss £100 from their account over the space of a few days when they are apparently skint?! Think I'm feeling extra pissed off about everything and also scared of ramifications of saying anything.

Don't mention it to him. If he does, say that you figured he was finally paying what he owed from Christmas.

I've had the attitude of "oh I'll just pretend I didn't notice" but everyone who knows me knows that I am absolutely obsessive with checking my banking.

You don't need to pretend you didn't notice, if he ever raises it.

He owes you the money (from christmas). Now he's paid it.

If it was in error and he wasn't going to ever pay you what he owed you, that isn't you fault, is it?

Just say nothing. Take it as he's caught up.

My ex has the attitude it's my husbands fault for taking me on and he should cough up, with a laugh.

Then offered me 30p and that's been the end of it but asks me for food parcels if middle son stays there

Say nothing the twunt.

I wouldn't mention, he probably won't even notice himself as it happened a few weeks ago and he hasn't noticed yet. Clearly doesn't need the money then so could pay more towards his child.
If he does say anything just say "oh I thought you paid extra to cover Christmas when yoU didn't pay"

Gamerchick 30p

Will keep Christmas answer in my pocket for if it ever comes up.

Gamerchick - sounds bloody wonderful. Does he also insult your DH and tell him that he's "nothing" to DS? Some guys are the best! 🙄

I would assume it was to cover Christmas and think no more of it.

Yep all of that. I've stopped the youngest from seeing him anyway and the bairns a lot happier. Told him to take me to court and while we're there we'll sort out 7 years backdated child support.

Funnily enough I've heard nothing.

Makes you wonder what we ever saw in them really.

He owes you the money (from christmas). Now he's paid it.

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