To think you should pay for bridesmaids/page boy outfits if it's your wedding?

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MIL is getting married, they are fairly well off.

She has decided she wants all the bridesmaids in matching dresses and has told us where to buy them....

She then said because of our 'money situation' she'd be prepared to pay for the dresses and that "£25 each would be rather a lot for us"....

So on both levels I'm a bit annoyed. I think the bride and groom should pay, and without the whole 'because you're poor we'll pay for just your daughters'.

AIBU?

Bride and groom should definitely pay if they expect anyone in the wedding party to wear a certain outfit.

WITHOUT any comment about your money situation.
How bloody rude

YANBU. If they want something a certain way, they should not pass on any costs to guests.

Yes bloody yes. If you want people to be pretty and matching at your wedding you have to pay.

I believe the etiquette is if you want matching, you pay if they want own dresses they pay.

What a rude woman.

Ugh, it's just so embarrassing and rude.

My bridesmaids paid for their own dresses but then they chose them too. They certainly didn't match. We paid for the bouquets they carried obviously.

I've been a bridesmaid once and paid for everything, including £100 for a pair of satin sandals ,. That I did resent - the dress was hideous.

YANBU but £25 for a dress is not that unreasonable and they are paying.

Yes. But people can be so cringe when it comes to weddings. It's like brides just have a blindspot.

Yes, she should pay. My DD was a flower girl for my cousin last year. I knew money was tight for them so I bought DD's shoes which she then wore as summer shoes but I would not have paid or contributed towards the dress.

If you're being told what to buy, they should pay.

Having said that, my sister requested (note requested, not demanded) that my boys wore a certain colour suit - and I bought them, but then she's skint and I'm not (and the kids looked awesome) so I didn't mind.