To think he's up to something?

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Split from violent ex a year ago. He has had no contact with DD since and no interest in seeing her since he was arrested for threatening us both.

Just had a phone call from my doctors giving me the heads up that he has requested a copy of her medical records. Why would he do this? What is he up to? I update him every 3 months on how she is doing. Also would've cost him 50 quid apparently to do this.

AIBU to think he's up to something and fear the worst?

Ugh, he sounds a real catch. Imagine having sex with someone else when your baby is due any day. And then putting the baby at risk - I wouldn't be able to forgive myself if I were him.

He's never even apologised for it. He's just rank.

You say that you changed your DD's name by deed poll.

Just to clarify, did you have the father's consent to do this?

No, they said due to the domestic violence I didn't need it.

Does he' still have PR? If so, did you do it with a Specific Issue Order?

The reason I ask, is because firstly, it came up in quite a short thread, so I took it to have significance, and secondly when I ever suspect that somebody is out to have a go at me, I look for my own weaknesses before anything else.

Because weaknesses, or perceived weaknesses at any rate, are what bullies always target.

Yes he still had PR. I just phoned them to ask if I needed his permission and they said no due to the domestic violence that I didn't need to contact him. I just mentioned it up thread as someone mentioned getting a passport which I will try do to in her new name.

Please see your solicitor. You're getting conflicting advice, but you need to clarify things and ensure he can't just waltz back in. Get an injunction if necessary.