DS, 24, back at home after several uni years, is loving and it's good to have him around again until he finds his feet and a job outside our small town. But, and it's quite a but - he's making life pretty difficult for me. I lent him money for a holiday with his g/f - though he's working (admittedly not earnign a lot but, still, earning), I haven't seen anything back. He's not contributing at all to running costs. I paid his pricey fare (and, yes, more fool me, perhaps) for a meet-up lately- not a word about contributing at some point or, sadly, any thanks to speak of.
He works largely afternoons/evenings and is pretty restless at night. Goes off for walks in the early hours - leaving doors and gates unlocked - and running the risk of disturbing elderly neighbours. And leaving us worrying. And then has a massive go at us about how contricted he feels living here. A slap in the face.
He's barely looked for work - though he's increasingly making it clear that he's keen to get out. I'm finding this so exhausting. I have a f-t and a p-t job to make ends meet & constant money worries as DH's hours have dropped to a handful a week. I'm up now, unable to get back to sleep, after another set to when he'd gone out - leaving the house in danger and the possibility of neighbours complaining. Nobody is trying to curtail his movements - far from it - but he's not helping himself and his behaviour is exhausting me. Have to be up in a couple of hours for a long day ..
Thanks for reading this - helps writing it down.