I've stomped off.

[lilyboleyn]

Bugger.
We've come out to a big animal park with my husband and his family. My 6 month old daughter has cried literally all day apart from the two hours my husband insisted we sit in the cafe while she sleep (I'd have let her sleep in the buggy).
Nerves are very frayed.
Sister in law started pushing my daughter ten mins ago. She stopped crying. "Must be the parenting!" She joked. I know it was a joke.

I've stomped off and am hiding near the exit. It's a big park and they might not be back here for another couple of hours. I don't want to phone them to find out where they are because a) I feel embarrassed and b) I'm still very frayed.
Anyone fancy sitting and stomping with me please?

Ah just seen your update.

I would also get the screaming investigated further.

Poor you and poor LO to be the 'running joke of your baby group'. I really hope you get some support soon.

Bad joke by your sil and your friends sound mean tbh.
I hope everything has settled down now and you're feeling better

Poor poor you. My DC3 had undiagnosed silent reflux it took until she was 6 months old for healthcare professionals to believe something was wrong.

She was my third!!!!!!

Please push on to get help for her and let your family give you a break as much as possible.

It's soul destroying you are doing well to have held it together so long

You need the peace, stomping off was a good move. Spend some time doing normal things without being screamed at.

My daughter screamed constantly for the first six months of her life. My husband and I would tag team during the evening while the other took a break from it.
I had a similar experience to you at a family picnic. Daughter screamed while elderly relatives gave their ridiculous advice on what I was doing wrong. I ended up in tears sat in the car. Once I calmed down a bit I pretended I had a headache or something but it was a horrible day.
She is thankfully all grown up now and absolutely fine. No real explanation for it at all.
and good luck
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Oh you poor thing :( I did similar once when my ds was little, he was an horrifically bad sleeper and my mum joked about a newborn who was sleeping better than him at night. I burst into tears and ran out of the room. My poor bemused dad gave me a huge hug and my mortified mum apologised profusely. It was kind of a relief after because I'd been putting a very brave face on things and they hadn't realised how exhausted I was. They were able to be more supportive after. Perhaps if your in laws are decent sorts the same will happen for you.

Joke or not, something like that is the LAST thing you want to hear after a shitty, stressful day with a screaming baby. I'd actually go as far to say it was deliberately mean spirited.

She could have said something much more jokey like "Oh look, I'm the favourite auntie!" but she didn't, she made a pseudo jokey dig at your parenting skills. I think I would have stomped off too.

Thanks all. feel a bit more normal now.
Husband gave me car key so am pretending to sleep in there...
Got some nice gorilla picture books for the screamy baby in the shop, and a caramel wafer for me!

Are u still stomped off or have they found you now? Screaming babies suck. Mine was allergic to dairy and stopped screaming eventually. It will get easier, but when the baby is safe with someone else, by all means, stomp/stroll away away and get some peace! Good luck xx

My son used to scream all the time and never really slept more than two hours at a time during the night. It's so hard you have my sympathy. It will get better.

My 6 month old daughter has cried literally all day apart from the two hours my husband insisted we sit in the cafe while she sleep (I'd have let her sleep in the buggy)

He insisted? I'd be having a discussion about this. What a waste of a day out - you could have been walking around in the fresh air, chatting to the adults while she slept - but he wanted to sit in the cafe for two hours?

As for your sil's remark - I don't know why some people are so insensitive. She'll say it was a joke, and you know she was joking, but it still rankles when you're the one doing most of the "parenting" for a baby who seems constantly irritable.

No harm in checking again with your GP but it may be that she's like one of my dc - he didn't seem to enjoy being a helpless baby but blossomed into a lovely happy boy once he was able to move around by himself. It may seem endless but this stage will pass

Oh Lily
You poor thing, well done on just legging it instead of saying something you regretted to what you knew to be a 'joke'
Second the cranial osteopath visit, it can really help them. Also have a word with your mean girls friends, just ask them if they realise how hurtful comments like that are. I bet you'll find that they will be mortified.
Remember, this too shall pass. Enjoy your car hidage!

I stomped off the today it was stupid really, my dd has done nothing but cry and tantrum on route to my mams. The minute we get through the door she says to dd "oh what have they been doing to you" I hate it when she's says this as it feels like she's saying well she never crys when she's around us. I offered to help my brother make dinner met with a firm NO! So I said I'm going home and flounced off.

I really feel for you. My mother in law declared my (at the time) four month old wasn't interested in me. I didn't stomp but I did slink off to the bedroom for a cry.

Joking or not, it's ill timed and it's natural to be upset.

I'm glad you have supplies now. Have a for later.

For all of you with 'hilarious' friends and relatives who cut through your last nerve with their bastarding jokey comments.
Seriously, do non of them remember being on the edge with a screamer? Gah.

Poor you. Absolutely normal. I stormed out on DH when DD was about 4 weeks old after several days of non stop 24 hour feeding and crying. Told him he could "keep the sodding baby" and went for a long furious walk with my iPod on full blast.

Slunk back 20 minutes later to feed said baby.

Hormones and sleep deprivation are bad enough without grown pjs making it worse with thoughtless comments