just need a moan really....

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bear with me, it's only a moan, and i'm guessing if you don't like moans then you won't have clicked on this post!
I love my daughter, she is amazing and i'm soooooooooooo, so lucky.
What I don't love is all this other stuff I have to do that takes me away from her.....I have to work hard to try and get our house into a state that's fit for her.....I don't want to do that, I want to relax after everything and bond with her and do stuff for her.
I want to eat decent food but don't have the time. I am able to do some breastfeeding so the food is even more important.
I want to be able to get on with stuff without neglecting her.

I should shut up now and do something more useful, I just wanted to post somewhere where there might be sympathetic people.

Don't beat yourself up

You're doing what you need to do to make a better life for your daughter. As long as she is happy and cared for that's all that matters right now. She won't remember this stuff - There's plenty of time for making memories.

Struggling with juggling. You are certainly not alone - most mums feel the same. I find a glass of wine helps...

thank you
heavenlypink, I think you're right, things have got a bit better since I posted as a friend came round for a bit and I got a bit done
thanks again xxx, good old mumsnet!

Being a working mum is HARD!!! I mean being a mum full stop is hard and do t get me wrong I take my hat of to SAHM's they do a cracking job too. I am a working single mum and I find that housework and self care are very low on my list of priorities. I have kids to play with, stories to read, baths to splash in, lunches to make etc. The list is endless!! Never feel guilty for feeling a bit overwhelmed and also try and make a little time to look after you. You are the most important person for your daughter and she needs you to look after yourself as well. I type this as I am laid next to a small child who has vomited everywhere and is now snoring in my bed!!!!! Feel better soon!

thanks makeitpink, that was a lovely msg, was going to do a longer reply but just realised I need to make bottles before the soddin gwater goes below 70 degrees, hate the bloody bottles!!!
tahnks again
jo

Sounds like you're doing a great job actually!

On the decent food thing: it can make a difference to how you feel, so if you can put aside some energy to eat properly and get a bit of exercise you'll find it easier to manage.

As for the house: it doesn't matter much if it's untidy, as long as it's not unsafe.

Glad you had a friend round! Friends are extra important when your kids are small. Well, all the time in fact... I hated the bottles too... I started exclusively breastfeeding my first when she was six months old and it made everything much easier. But I know it doesn't work for everyone.

I promise it will get easier! Just take it a day (or an hour, or ten minutes) at a time. And moan whenever you need to!

thanks wench, i wish to god that ebf was an option for me but i just can't produce enough milk despite trying loads of things to up my supply
the house is unsafe in parts and unclean, just due to lack of time and money, i am improving things but it is very, very slow when you're single with a nipper
friends are so important at a time like this and there have been some examples of them being amazing but honestly, some people's performance has been shocking, one friend in particular seems to think i'm a leper now that i have a baby (she's had one herself!)
must go and attack my financial affairs now
thanks xx