To expect to be able to attend my partners graduation

[LouBlue1507]

Hi Ladies, Just look for some opinions...

My partner and I have been together for nearly 3 years and in November he will be graduating after doing his teacher training and PGCE. It has been a difficult year for us and I'm going to be so proud of him! I really want to be there and see him receive his 'masters'.

The problem I'm facing is that OH has said only two people are allowed in the actual ceremony on the day, which put us in a dilemma as there is me, his mum and his dad (separated and remarried).

AIBU to be one of those attending the ceremony to watch my partner graduate? His parents were able to see him graduate for his degree already. I do feel a bit of entitlement as I'm the one whose supported him through this year.

I gave up my home and business to move where we are now so that my partner can get onto the course he's on, after me encouraging him to go for teaching in the first place. I've also spent hours helping him with his work and preparing resources for his teaching.

I really want to see my OH graduate, I can't wait for it! I just feel bad that if I go he'll have to choose between his mum and dad (he'll pick his mum). But I do feel like I should be there (tbf oh agrees) we just don't want to upset anyone.

We're expecting out first baby in July and feel like that I am just as much closer part of his family now as his mum and dad.

Thanks

Personally I think he should just take you and meet up separately with his parents for celebratory lunches at a later date.

That way neither parent feels left out as they both are so not favouritism!

DD asked me and DH to attend her graduation ceremony, while her partner and dd watched it being screened. We never expected to be asked but it was lovely of her. At her Masters' ceremony we fullyexpect and accept we'll be watching it via a big screen. If all parties are sensible and reasonable, there shouldn't be any upset.

Do his parents even want to go? I think graduation ceremonies can be deadly boring, I didn't bother going to my own, didn't even think that my parents would have wanted to go (probably not ).

I think you should apply for the third ticket and all go if granted. If not successful in obtaining a third ticket I would say that just you (and baby) should get to go and have a nice family meal afterwards.

Does baby need it's own ticket?

I didn't know people did PGCE graduation ceremonies! I'd have thought that, having sat through one graduation ceremony, his parents might be happy enough to let you have this one!

Is there a ceremony? dont think i bothered

Op yanbu. I am pretty sure his dad wont be bothered - are many people even going? There will probably be extra tickets later on.

I was in this position and was able to get an extra ticket. Not sure what I would have done otherwise, but I think it's quite natural to want your mum & dad there, even when you're a proper grown up!! Hope you get the extra ticket.

Definitely you should be there.

At my uni, it was two tickets each but nearer the date, there were loads more available so you could apply fore more. I got an extra 2 in the end.