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...to be annoyed at being overlooked at work?

18 replies

GreenBaizePacker · 29/04/2016 20:07

Sometimes there are emergency requirements at work which mean out of hours working. This weekend there are 3 shifts that require this. The shifts are all daytime but count as out of hours because of weekend and bank hol. There are 4 people who are able to do this role and are available. It's really crucial work, great for experience, a good development opportunity and attracts extra money.

Shifts were all allocated and I wasn't given one because "GBP, you live further away so we'll cover it between the rest of us." I live 60 mins from work and the others approx 15-20 mins and am really cross about this. Surely not fair to have been overlooked just for having a longer commute? This sort of opportunity doesn't come up often - last time was July last year.

I raised it with the senior who allocated the shifts and she brushed it off saying that I shouldn't feel overlooked or excluded and to enjoy my bank holiday weekend.

I'm torn between thinking this is faintly ridiculous and I'm fussing over nothing but on the other hand thinking I'm rightfully annoyed and should take it further.

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Gizlotsmum · 29/04/2016 20:25

Has this happened before?

PastaLaFeasta · 29/04/2016 20:33

Could you approach this positively rather than as a moan about what's just happened? Perhaps bring it up in your next 1-2-1 or review as a development opportunity and have the next slot promised to you?

GreenBaizePacker · 29/04/2016 23:24

Not happened before that I've noticed. Now I'm going over every previous assignment of tasks and wondering.

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MattDillonsPants · 30/04/2016 00:37

If it's not happened before look at it like this. The person responsible for allocating simply looked for a reason to exclude. They found your distance to be an adequate reason.

I agree that it's not but I would not get too upset if it's not regularly happening.

funniestWins · 30/04/2016 04:56

I wouldn't get upset and just tell whoever's responsible that you'd like the opportunity to do it in future as "It's really crucial work, great for experience and a good development opportunity."

funniestWins · 30/04/2016 04:58

Posted too soon.

If it has happened before then just assume it's for the same reason. If it happens after you let her know how keen you are then perhaps it's time to think more of it.

GraysAnalogy · 30/04/2016 05:02

Is it on call?

I can understand your feelings but can't help but think they thought they were doing you a favour if your distance was a factor. Perhaps just say something like 'id like the be involved next time' and see what they say?

curren · 30/04/2016 06:23

I know you feel you have missed out. But someone had to miss out 3 shifts for 4 people.

To be honest it sound like it was done as a favour. You live further away.

I would only be annoyed and take it further if it keeps happening. Make clear you want to do this and want to be considered in future.

Personally I think annoyed and taking it further is an over reaction. If it keeps happening, fair enough.

29redshoes · 30/04/2016 07:16

I'd be annoyed too. I agree with others though, the best way to approach is probably to leave it this time but to make it really clear that next time you want to do one of the shifts (play up the development aspects and perhaps downplay the extra money).

As you're the only one who missed out you should really have first refusal next time they come up.

OliviaStabler · 30/04/2016 07:39

Maybe they were trying to be kind? As you live further away, it would take you longer in travelling time than anyone else and take more time away from the Bank Holiday weekend than those that live close to your place of work.

I agree with a PP, at you next catch up with your manager, just say that you'd like to have first refusal the next time the situation arises for your personal development.

witsender · 30/04/2016 07:42

I would just swallow it but say "I really don't mind the commute and would love to be involved...so I'll be happy to take my turn next time."

TendonQueen · 30/04/2016 08:04

Will this be the way it works for the next bank holiday weekend at the end of May? If so put your name down for that now.

Laura812 · 30/04/2016 08:31

Why not suggest next time as you want to do it one of the others drops out? I suspect there is no legal duty to give any of you over time so hard to make legal claims over it and that might lead to the sack anyway but if it were because you were black or female then discrimination law might come into it. Better just in a friendly manner say next time you 'd like it noted it is your turn and make sure that's in an email of which you keep a copy and remind them a bit nearer the time too.

Laura812 · 30/04/2016 08:32

You could ask your colleagues - the other 3 if they want to do it of course too because they might prefer not to and not realise that you would be delighted to step in and need the money.

TutanKaDashian · 30/04/2016 10:05

Yes, you have a right to be annoyed. Especially as it was framed like that, but one person had to miss out on the shift. Can you say to your manager that you would like to be top of the list for next time this situation arises?

RandyMagnum · 30/04/2016 11:43

Is it on call work? My on call work stipulates I need to be within 30 minutes of work incase of a call. Does your place have a similar policy?

TheCrumpettyTree · 30/04/2016 12:12

Is it on call work? My on call work stipulates I need to be within 30 minutes of work incase of a call. Does your place have a similar policy?

This is exactly what I was going to say.

GreenBaizePacker · 30/04/2016 19:10

No it's timed work with set start and finish hours. I'm not eligible for on call because of the 30 mins thing which I totally appreciate.

I know someone had to miss out - and even if she did pick me for that reason maybe she shouldn't have said?

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