to think that DSis is making the right decision?

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DSis has 2 children who are, unfortunately, not living with her after SS involvement. They have not been adopted and are with family members but it is very very unlikely they will live with her again as children.

She has in the past and still does suffer from mental health issues (depression and PTSD) as a result of a number of things but has undergone some councilling and is in a much better place now, albeit not totally ok, and has a stable relationship wth her DP of 3 years.

She is recently becoming quite broody. She has never really felt that her family was complete but has decided that it would be better if she was to get sterilised as she does not want to cause her children any more hurt and doesn't want to risk becoming pregnant again for their sake. Also, the whole involvement with SS was so traumatic for her that she does not think she could cope with having them in her life again (which obviously, given the previous history, they would be) and could not risk any subsequent children also being taken.

Aibu to think that actually, this is the right decision despite the fact that she is still young, only early 30's and I am worried she will regret it? I'm very close to my DSis and I love her to bits, she asked me to start this thread as she is too afraid of being judged but is really struggling with this.

It occurred to me overnight, if she has periods where her MH is not good she may find it difficult coping with contraception during those periods and I imagine that the idea of getting pregnant mid-MH crisis is probably terrifying for her.

Agree with PP that this decision is actually very good parenting. I work with vulnerable families and I've never known of a woman in her situation to consider this before.

The only thing I would think is 'good for her.' I'm a foster carer and I have known several people who have had children taken off them only to go on to have more and more only for all of them to be removed as well. I have heard social workers say they wish some mothers would get sterilised but the social workers are not allowed to suggest it.

Your sister sounds very sensible to know that this may be the best option all round.

I think she's making the right decision.

I don't know what the correct word for it is. Not brave as someone suggested. Mature or intelligent or selfless perhaps. Anyway, it's besides the point.

It's fantastic that she's making a pragmatic decision while she's mentally fit rather than a poor choice when her mental health's poor.

I've encountered a case similar to this - and all medical professionals involved supported her decision despite her young age as it was decided it would be in her best interests.

I think it is very brave and difficult decision. If it was my dsis I would be behind her all the way offering support.