Card not arrived for dn bday.

[martha16]

A few weeks ago it was my nieces birthday. At the time I could only afford £10 and promised I would pay the rest when I could. My sister wasn't happy about this and I received some nasty messages.

My nephews birthday was on Tuesday. On Saturday I sent a card with £20 and £10 for my niece 2nd class because I literally had no other money to pay recorded etc and had a spare 2nd class stamp.

It hasn't turned up. And every single day Iv been getting messages saying how Iv let her dc down (they are 17&14).

I 150% sent it and fuming with being accused of not sending it! I don't know what to do! I can't afford to replace the £30 yet. I feel so bloody awful!!

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It's still not arrived. I feel awful and I don't know what to do? Should I replace the money? 😩😩

Bullshit has it not arrived. Your sister has pocketed the money. Send the text that LifeIsChaos suggested.

Oh yes Martha, do bust a gut to replace money that you cannot afford to people who wont appreciate it. Good idea.

Or..... No. Phone niece and nephew (leave sister out of it) explaining that you sent the card and money, it hasn't arrived, you aren't replacing anything but hope they enjoy their birthdays regardless.

Stop stressing about it, you have sent the card and gifts, it's not your fault if it's gone missing. Don't send replacement cash either.

Do not replace it under any circumstances.

My family have learnt the hard way not to send anything valuable with Royal Mail. They are a bunch of robbing bastards. We only send birthday cards unsealed these days so they can look inside and see there is no money without destroying it.

Loss prevention are worse than useless at sorting it out.

Did you send actual cash? It's probably been pinched if so - I've been caught out before.

Postal orders are good - made out to the recipient & they have to sign for it themselves - I think they have to be over 8

Oh & your sister sounds awful

Have you actually read any of the replies?

If the children were 4 & 7 they still get presents as it isnt their fault their mum is a bitch.

But at 14 & 17 nearly an adult one of them ffs, their mum would be told to swing for their fucking presents.

You didn't have money for a stamp, so you sent £30 to your teenage niece and nephew?
Maybe if you didn't dress your children in Joules and Boden

Though, your previous posts show some inconsistencies, so really not believing this even happened.

Your sister sounds like an arse. How entitled? Really sorry the card hasn't arrived when you struggled to find the money. It may have been pinched unfortunately but don't replace it if you can't afford it

My aunt sometimes sends me money for things, which is very sweet. She sends it by direct bank transfer online now and then sends me a text saying she's done it, it shows up in my account. Could this be an option for future so this doesn't happen again?

I've only been reading threads in here over the last couple of days, but I really can't believe the way some people treat others. No one in my family would ever kick up this fuss about birthday money. AIBU is a real eye-opener for me.

In one thread you say I'm 25, with an 8 year old and a 6 year old. Also 7 months pregnant

In another thread you say you're expecting your first baby.

Trolling is very dull. Didnt you know peoples posting history is searchable.

Saying 'fuck off' costs nothing.

WTF??? This cannot be real but on the off chance it is op I'd tell your sister to fuck off and not bother with her anymore.

OP, I remember your original post about this where she was very nasty and said she'd be docking the value of your DC's birthday gifts to account for the IOU - absolutely tell her to fuck off.

At 17 and 14, they should have their own bank accounts by now. I'd transfer anything in directly in future and just send a card.

I also second the suggestions to glitterbomb the bitch. Nothing says, 'piss off, you overbearing controlling cow' like spending weeks cleaning up what looks like the murder scene of a unicorn.

Nothing says, 'piss off, you overbearing controlling cow' like spending weeks cleaning up what looks like the murder scene of a unicorn.

Fuck I laughed. Thanks for that

I feel your pain. I live in the US, my brother, SIL and nephew are in the UK. When my nephew turned 14, I mailed a card to him, in plenty of time. For whatever reason, it didn't arrive on his birthday. When it arrived, a few days later, my SIL posted it back to me and sent me a message telling me that if I couldn't be bothered to get the card there on time, to not bother. Cheeky bitch. I took her at her word, and I've never sent him a card since.

If this is real you are an idiot for sending cash in the post. Why did you send your nephew 20 and your niece 10? Honestly you need to grow a pair.

Good grief, that's like in Les Miserables when the Thenardier's are claiming Cosette is ill so Fantine sends more money.

You should not be sending cold hard cash to her teenagers and suffering abuse when it's 'not enough'. You're not the bank.