Thanks for reading this :-) I have very little experience of the right way to behave in a relationship - divorced last year from an emotionally abusive husband, who was my first boyfriend. unexpectedly met someone else and we've been pretty happy for the last 9 months. My new man knows about my past and the accompanying mental health issues I have to deal with, as well as a few physical problems which cause me chronic pain. He has a high functioning autistic condition, which can make things interesting at times, but we have always got along really well and have been very much in love and happy together.
Anyway, a few days ago as we were saying goodbye, out of the blue he grabbed me, and started giving me a massive slobbery kiss; it was horrible and I pushed him away, but he pushed me against my car and carried on, obviously thinking it was a big joke but scaring me and hurting me; I couldn't get him off or get him to stop. When he did stop, he was laughing but I felt frightened and disgusted and wanted to get away. He was oblivious of how I was feeling, and when I've tried to talk to him about it since he is completely dismissive, as if I am making a fuss about nothing. I completely get that he has trouble with empathy so I don't expect him to understand my feelings, but I would hope he'd respect that I feel the way I do and he is making no effort to do this. So was I overreacting to what he did? And AIBU to want him to take this seriously?