To think this is odd?

[HelpForAFriendInNeed]

My friend told me earlier that his 14 year old daughter sleeps in is ex wife's bed with her every night (4 bed house with just the two of them). AIBU to think this is odd?

[wavingnow]

You would need more info to know if its odd. If the DD can't sleep on her own for a reason that needs dealing with for example. I used to love sleeping in my mums bed but not regularly more at a weekend if i was too tired to go to my own bed after getting in cause it was warmer while we had been chatting for ages.

[EverySongbirdSays]

I don't know why you've started this thread OP. You're username is 'Help For A Friend In Need' but it doesn't sound like he needs any help it sounds like you're being very judgey and a nosy cow.

Your OP is very short. Is there more to this? Are you the OW?

[ILovePies]

My mum was a single when I was 14/15 and I used to sleep in her bed all the time. Don't think it's strange at all.

[RaskolnikovsGarret]

Both DDs (13 and 15) often have turns sleeping with me if DH is away. It's fun and not weird at all I think. They both also show a healthy amount of contempt and loathing to me at times, so I think it's all normal!

[HelpForAFriendInNeed]

everysongbird I'm not the other woman, and he offered the information, I didn't ask. I suppose I did judge though.

My username was chosen for a previous thread, a different friend completely.

[cuntinghomicidalcardigan]

My oldest is only 3.5 so can't really comment on how 'normal' the situation is... however I am sobbing a little bit at the thought of 18mo ds still wanting to 'co-sleep' in 12 1/2 years! He takes up too much bed now! 😂

[StarOnTheTree]

It's unusual but not odd. I take it that the DD has her own room that she could sleep in if she wanted to. Maybe she starts off in her own room and gets in with her mum in the night.

[ExtraHotLatteToGo]

Why are you even giving this a second thought?

[MrPony]

I used to sleep in my mams bed during a phase when I was a teenager. If I didn't wake up to go through I would sleepwalk. We did nothing but sleep and it was comforting to be close to my mam. I would think nothing of it.

[AriaTloak]

I went through a phase when I was 14/15 of being my mums best friend in the world (we still are!) and when my dad was away working I'd come kip in her bed and we'd stay up chatting about random things/plans for the future.

They're lovely memories on my part & I'd be pretty offended if people went around thinking I was odd for it.

Regardless, it's none of your business!

[PixieMiss]

I had a really rough time in my teens with awful mental health issues caused by all sorts.

It resulted in me sleeping in my DM's bed till I was about 16. There was only me and her at home though, no DF or siblings so we were quite close anyway.

[Beeziekn33ze]

Calm down, it's nothing to do with you.

[queenMab99]

I went through a phase at about 14, when I was terrified to be alone at night, my poor Dad was relegated to my single bed, in the early hours, while I slept with my Mum. Even I knew it was weird, and there was no reason for it, just unaccountable night terrors. iI grew out of it, it passed. My 3 siblings didn't remark on it, they didn't have a problem.

[MiniMiniMiniAndABigRedBus]

It's none of your business. And I suspect you fancy him and are jealous of her.

[NickiFury]

My 13 year old and 9 year old love sleeping in my bed, it's a treat for them. They get one night a week each. My bed is my own every other night and that's how I like it.

As for your OP. I don't think it's weird if both are ok with it and choosing to do it.

[dreamingon]

You do not know the circumstances, it is unusual but not sinister in any way spoken from experience. Is this really the worst that you have got to worry about it is none of your business.

[carabos]

My friend's 14 yr old son sleeps with her. He will not stop it. He sleeps alone when he is at his dad's and at friends' homes. She wants it to stop and their family doctor has referred them for some sort of therapy (they are abroad) as it is a) unusual and b) concerning. She is at her wits end. She knows it's odd. It is odd. FWIW, she has been told by the therapist that it is a form of separation anxiety and is far more common in single parent households than where the parents are still together, from which she has inferred that the need is on both sides, not just DS.

He's coming over to stay with us in the summer and it will be interesting to see what progress has been made. The plan is for him to come here for boarding school at 16, so he needs to be more independent by then, although it really isn't an issue when he's not with her.

[123lekl]

Seriously, why are people so nosey? There are posts like this all the time where an almost certainly innocent scenario is asked about with a suspicious undertone.
None of your business I'd say and the same for all the 'do gooders' who should keep their noses out of the lives of others. Unless there's clearly a problem, don't invent one

[GooodMythicalMorning]

Nothing wrong with it. She's just lonely and likes the company. When my mum and dad split up I used to climb in with my dad as it was comforting and I loved my dad's hugs. I grew out of it though so I'm sure she will too.

[XiCi]

I think this is probably alot more common than you think and tbh wouldn't bat an eyelid if someone told me this.
I suspect that there is more going on with you and this 'friend' than you are admitting.

[Costacoffeeplease]

Fuck all to do with you though isn't it? I don't know why you're even thinking about it

[agentmarmalade]

Is your friend trying to make his ex wife sound like some kind of weirdo? And you taking the bait by any chance?
Perhaps the kid just likes to get in bed with mum for a feeling of safety? I used to all through my childhood, I thought it stopped me having nightmares.
My kids Who are all under ten would sleep next to me every night if they could! No sinister disturbing reasons. It's called Co sleeping.
It just sounds to me like your friend is trying to put his ex down and paint her as being a bit freakish!