My husband works in a fantastic job. He'sHe's been offered by his company the option to move to America for a month or so each year. It would be all done not in term time even though none of my children are at school yet. It would mean our entire family having to move to America for those couple of months each year. It would basically be every single holiday that isn't in term time. Having informed my family that I'm due to leave the UK for only a couple of months a year my mother is now trying her best to get us to stay. She says that the kids will be teased, that we won't be able to fit it in and that it will be so hard for the children it to adjust to the move. She said I'm taking her grandchildren away from her. After I laughed her suspicions off she then began to cry and say that the kids will be teased for their names. This is now her main argument and she continually talks about how they won't like the kids names. I'm pregnant by the way. Haven't told her yet. Is it wrong of me to let the kids spend all their holidays in America?
AIBU?
It's only a couple of months per year.
Is your Mum always a drama llama?
I'm curious to know what names your kids could possibly have, that would cause them to get teased in America but not in the UK? 
The only thing that would bother me, is that it all sounds rather exhausting travel-wise. Particularly when the kids start school.
But that might not be a problem for you at all.
Sorry what, "adjust to the move" ? For 8 weeks? Does she fear 'adjusting to the move' when you go away for a fortnight to Spain to? Suggest that local children will tease them for their names? Does she fear you are taking her grandchildren away from her when you go away?
! It's not 'moving', it's "going on a long holiday when their Dad is working abroad". It's 8 weeks or less, that's long holiday. Great that you can do it. Fabulous if he'll get some time off (or tag time off to the start/end of working period) so you can travel around a bit. It's a holiday.
For that length of time, if it doesn't work for you/the DCs, you can just stay in the UK when DH is away/only go for part of it. Bit shitty to be apart for that long, but not outside 'the norm' for many families.
Is your mother prone to drama llama tendancies?
I'd give her something proper to worry about and suggest that you discussed it and agreed the US move might not be the best,it's a lot of travelling back and forth, and there's a role that's full time in the Dubai/Moscow/Sydney office and you feel it would be great to go for all of you, huge ex-pat community so we'd not have to worry about 'fitting in', and DH would be back in the UK office a couple of months a year so able to see the DCs then, after all, a couple of months is a huge amount of time... 
What gets me about the issue isn't that your DM is a drama llama- if she sees your DCs often then of course she will miss them (although her way of conveying this is a bit 
)- it's that she feels her loss is greater than your DH's loss....the father of her GK's.... if you were to stay. She wants you to stay and separate your family for a period of time each year?! How selfish!
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Ooh is this the first time your mother is trying to control her grown up child or is it part of a cycle? Sounds amazing. If it were my mother - she's very controlling - I'd feel like buying her some Valium and telling her to eat my dust. 
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