to be pissed off that DP told DD to shut up?

[LissaLoves]

DP had an unexpected day off today. He has snapped at 4 year old DD and made her cry twice, huffed and puffed at 15 month old DS crying and constantly moaned at 8 year old DD since she came home, culminating in telling her to 'just shut up!' in the garden, leaving her running in in floods of tears. I spoke to him about it once I had put the DC to bed and he said she spoke in a rude tone which is why he snapped and said it. If one of the DC said 'shut up' to one of us or to each other they would be in trouble, I think it is extremely rude and ridiculous to have lost his temper with all the DC during what was supposed to be a bonus day off with them. Aibu?

This might be some help but when DH shouts (at my dogs which totally hacks me off - he shouts GET INSIDE NOW at them when they bark which sounds to me like he's a bloody animal-beater) if I overhear someone else talking in the same way I say to him that that is how he sounds. Gives him food for thought. (Also I said I'd leave if he didn't stop being a tosser!!)

Lissa - look through your posting history and really read through it. Your relationship sounds absolutely awful. I genuinely can't understand why you've stayed so long and kept having children with this man.