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To wish I had kept my maiden name?

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tangerino · 27/04/2016 13:19

When I got married (15 years ago) I kept my maiden name at work and used a mix of maiden and married names at home. Then, when DS was born it all seemed a bit complicated, so I switched to my married name for everything.

I now regret this and wish I'd kept my maiden name- I feel it's much more me than my married name will ever be and also a more interesting name in itself.

Has anyone switched back in this situation? I can't see how I would do it without making people assume we're getting divorced or finding it really weird. I don't think my husband would be bothered, although my kids might find it a bit odd (although TBH they'd barely notice if it was just a question of the name on my bank statement etc).

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cinnamonorange · 27/04/2016 13:27

I switched back after about four years; I never could get used to not having my own name. Some people asked what was going on and I just explained it to them. They can tell DH and I are still solid, and they respect me for being true to myself. It's fine.

Lottapianos · 27/04/2016 13:29

Switch back. It's your name. You're entitled to use your own name. Everyone will get over it soon enough.

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