wwyd r.e potential new job and TTC

[happybus28]

would appreciate a little perspective/advice with my dilemma!!

me and DH made the decision to start TTC originally back in Nov when we got back off honeymoon. after looking at finances/debt and what mat leave i would get (stat) we realised it would be too much of a struggle financially at that point so we decided to wait 6 months and get some debt paid off first. i struggled with that decision as wanted to start a family so desperately but i knew it was the right thing to do.

fast forward to march and i saw a job advertised at a organisation i have always been interested in and have always wanted to work for. i wasn't actively looking for jobs but i saw this job advertised on social media and thought it sounded perfect for me. i got a bit giddy and applied. 6 weeks later i now have a interview tomorrow and i am really in 2 minds about what to do....

if i get offered the job and decide to accept it then we are looking at delaying TTC until next year and as much as i would love the opportunity to work there I'm really not sure i can wait that long to start a family. my maternal instinct is as strong as ever and just getting stronger! That is really the only downside about accepting the job, its more money, free parking, better hours, no working weekends, better holidays, better pension, better mat leave/sick leave, better prospects for the future.

I know i haven't been offered it yet & DH thinks i should go for the interview and make a decision if i get offered it but i can't help but feel I'm wasting everyone's time if i can't accept it anyway? am i being silly by putting my desire to start a family before the opportunity of a better job/potential start of a career? WWYD?!?

At 29 with no known fertility issues I'd go for it, bed down in the job for a few months if offered and then ttc. You're overwhelmingly likely to conceive in the first 1-2 years of trying and 32 is hardly an old parent. You've no reason to hurry unless perhaps you want lots of children.

Go for the job and hold off on baby. I'm also having to wait for baby due to money/career/other boring things I wish I didn't have to care about but do, so I completely understand your feelings, but a better company with better pay and better conditions will be better with or without baby, especially if you intend to go back to work after having baby. You'll be much better off in the long term.

Will you definitely return to work after your maternity leave? I thought I would but couldn't, if you don't plan on returning then I'd not take it.

Also yes it could take you a while to conceive, I estimated a year because I was told that was the average but it happened straight away so make sure you're prepared for either scenario.

I hope you get the job and good luck ttc

Those benefits all sound great whether it takes a short while or long time to conceive. If you have a baby soon then you get more money for childcare, more holidays, less stressful communte because you can park there, etc. If it takes you longer to start a family then all those benefits will help you to be in the right position for assisted conception. You can't put your life on hold for ttc. What if it takes 3yrs and you are sat in your old job when you could be in great new one. Assuming you plan to return at least part time I would go for it.

I know that you feel impatient to start TTC but I think you need to look at the bigger picture.

You've been really sensible to pay off your debts before TTC. You said yourself that seeing this job made you giddy with excitement.

Go to the interview. Take the job if you're offers it.

Check your work policies and work the minimum length you have to work to qualify for maternity benefits. I know that might seem like a long time but, if you wait just a bit longer, it means that you will have a more comfortable maternity break and will be able to return to your dream job.

29 is still young. I had my first at 31 and was glad that I waited until I was settled and in a job with good maternity benefits

Thanks all for your opinions/advice it's really helped to see things from another perspective!!