This particular close relative has no income and various mental health illnesses. Never had a stable partner, but a string of good for nothing alcoholic/ drug using / severely depressed/ abusive partners (she's vulnerable and therefore attracts these types.) She has in the past asked me for handouts. I haven't given her money because I fear she'd become reliant on me and I have my own family to look after. She's resorted to food banks at times. Sometimes she struggles to look after herself...long bouts of depression, then extreme highs and lows requiring medication. She has no family/friend support where she lives (I'm in a different country) and she has just announced that she's 7 months pregnant. I feel nothing but anger right now that she's been so deliberately irresponsible and feels happy to bring a precious life into the world when she has no help or means to look after it. Am I being unreasonable to feel this? The word "congratulations" didn't enter my head! I want to (and will) be supportive as best I can, but I'm just so angry right now. She's 46...and says she has a right to be a mum. I guess it's her only chance, but still. I can only hope the baby won't end up in the care system!