This should probably be in the Relationship section but I need to hide it incase it is seen.
Last Friday, I confided to my sister regarding my marriage. After 25 years, our marriage has become virtually sexless/loveless. We otherwise get alone, no arguments but we are more like brother and sister at this stage. My sister gave me good advice and we talked for a couple of hours on the subject.
At one point, she started talking about marital rape. I was confused and asked her what relevance this had to my marriage ...? She said marital rape was probably too strong a term but she recounted me telling her (21 years ago) that my DH pressurised me into having sex after the birth of our first DC. I was shocked and told her that this did not happen. She was adamant that it did. She said I very clearly told her at the time that DH put pressure on me for sex. I got very irate and told her i don't remember ever saying such a thing. DH may not be perfect but he is not a rapist! She wouldn't back down and it descended into an argument. I told her i suffered from post natal depression after the birth and perhaps i was psychotic! I was very upset and angry and I started crying. DH is not capable of this. He is a gentle man, he is not aggressive and not that interested in sex (hence our current issues). My sister has known him for 30 years and should know the type of man he is. I can't believe she has held this belief about him for all these years. I'm distraught on DH's behalf.
I tried contacting her over the weekend but she won't answer my texts, emails or phone calls. I want to talk to her because I need to resolve it. I need to ask her exactly what I said all those years ago. If I said such a thing, I don't recall it, however, I don't know why she would lie about something like this either.
I could really do with all your good advice. I don't know how we can get past this. I'm devastated.