to think that she should have offered to contribute to the parking ticket?

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Not really a proper, MN-standard parking thread, but parking-related.

Friend and I took our DDs to a big event today. I offered to drive as we knew the town would be busy and it would be a nightmare to park two cars. Friend accepted happily and off we went. I didn't ask for, or expect, any petrol money - it was my choice to drive.

So, we arrive, we park, we pay and display and we make a note of the time when we need to get back.

Off we go into town and have a lovely time. Conscious of time, I suggest that we start to make our way back to the car. On the way back, friend's DD starts to get whiny and asks to stop in every other shop. Friend capitulates, although I warn them that we don't have long. Final stop is a cafe to get drinks. Slowest service in the world, so I left them in there to get takeout and take DD back to car, with the intention that they would catch us up.

We were ten minutes late getting back to the car and we got a ticket. PITA but a fair cop as we were late, and it was a legitimate council car park, not a dodgy bit of private land. Ended up picking up friend and her DD from outside the cafe. Told her that we got a ticket and she shrugged.

So - I know that the ticket is my responsibility and I will of course pay it. But AIBU to think that she should at least have apologised for the delays, and perhaps offered a contribution towards the fine?

you told her you got a ticket and she shrugged that would of really pissed me off
ask her for half but dont hold your breath

She is rude not to offer, but you'd be rude to ask now.

Mental note, don't give her a lift again, and don't try to hurry her up, just leave her if they aren't moving fast enough for car parking. Seems very rude that you reminder her youwere nearly out of time for the car park and she still didn't hurry up. This isn't someone you want to be reliant on in the future.

Think of it as a £35 bargain to find out your "friend" is a selfish twat

I'd have dumped her and moved the car, but she's a cow not to offer to pay half.

Was it a council car park? As there is a new rule that gives you a 10minute leeway if your late. Can't work out how to link article, but goggle it and you will find it

Yes, she should pay half

I've been in a sort of similar situation but as the passenger. A friend parked in a place that neither of us realised was wrong. Came back to a parking ticket. I instantly insisted that I would pay half, my feeling was that she was kind enough to drive and she shouldn't have to suck up the full cost of making a simple error when we were both adults and I had eyes too and could have noticed.

• Drivers complain about being hit with a penalty just as their ticket expires
• Now they will be given a 'grace period' for off and on-street council parking
• Rules will apply to cars in pay-and-display bays or spaces with time limits
• CCTV camera cars that automatically issue fines are to be made illegal too
• Eric Pickles and Patrick McLoughlin vowing to end 'war on the motorist'
By JAMES CHAPMAN, POLITICAL EDITOR FOR THE DAILY MAIL
PUBLISHED: 22:00, 5 March 2015 | UPDATED: 00:50, 6 March 2015

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Drivers are to get ten minutes extra time after a parking ticket runs out before they can be hit with a fine.
Under a change in the law to take effect within weeks, they will have the right to a ‘grace period’ in all on-street or off-street council parking places.
For decades, drivers have complained of returning to their cars moments after a ticket expires to find a prowling warden has already hit them with a penalty.

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UPDATE

Just had a text from her.

'Feel bad that you got a ticket. About to transfer £20 to you to contribute. Are your bank details the same?'

Coincidence? I didn't think she was a MNer.

Hello, S, if you're reading...

I'd have left the cafe and paid for another hour's parking probably. That's what we've done before in similar circs. That said I think she should offer to go halves. I once met a friend at the playground. We arrived in separate cars at about the same time. We ended up being a little bit late back to the car. My friend was just getting a ticket, I hadn't and loaded kids in quickly to avoid getting one. I did offer to split the ticket as it could just as easily have been my car the traffic warden got to first. She refused the offer though.

Perfect resolution, if she is reading well done for stepping up

X-posted - that's a great result! You have a nice friend :)

It wouldn't have occured to me to either expect her to offer me the money or ask for it. My car, my responsibility. You knew when you needed to be back, you should have gone on ahead.

Unless her DD has SN, and I'd hope you'd have made allowances for that and not posted this if she does, she was being utterly unreasonable allowing her DD to go into shops etc when you needed to get back to the car. However, it's her making the rod for her own back, you just have to minimise the impact it has on you.

100% drivers responsibility to ensure they park their car legally and return in time for tickets. As the driver you are the one taking decision/risk not returning in time will result in a ticket for you therefore its your responsibility. If you had said to her we are late for the parking are you happy to go half if I get a ticket, or said to her you had to go and she physically restrained you, then you might have a point. You chose to be late for YOUR ticket by your own actions.

As a driver I would be thankful and accept any contribution to a ticket but never expect it as it was my fault.

If I was a passenger, I would usually offer.

I'm delighted it's resolved

Yay!

I wouldn't ever expect someone to pay for my ticket. It's my car and my responsibility.

She has clearly read this and is now paying more than half which I think is unfair.

I bet she has read this, that's too much of a coincidence I think!

I wouldn't let her pay more than half. I do think she's doing the right thing but it's ultimately your responsibility that it happened.

Latte her DD is NT. I would of course have made allowances if she had additional needs.

£20 covers half of the parking fine and some of the cost that she couldn't contribute to the original P&D ticket because she didn't have any change, so I will accept it graciously as a fair contribution.

She may be on MN but it's equally possible that she's simply had a conversation with her DP and realised that it might be nice to contribute. Either way, it's resolved and all's well that ends well. Thanks for your thoughts.

Also - thanks Amser for the info about the tickets. I will explore that avenue (and OF COURSE I will refund her if I manage to get the ticket rescinded).

You were too polite! Let it be a lesson.

She's being rude and not much of a friend though, if it was me I would definitely go halves.

Oh FFS. Name changes are exhausting.

How much was the original ticket? You said she paid part of it at the time but has now paid an additional £5 towards it, it must have been a very expensive ticket!

Ah just seen your update, that is good of her

LettingAgent Fine is £35 if I pay within two weeks. So half is £17.50, leaving £2.50 to contribute to the £6 P&D ticket.