Cheeky requests that make you want to scream

[MeMySonAndl]

What is wrong with people?

This morning, a friend I have not seen in almost 2 years called me. I didn't see the call until lunch time, rang her back and send her a text but didn't reply.

She has just texted back saying that she needed me to give her a lift to the mechanic (WTF?)

Had another one this week, when I had to tell "no" to another mum 14 times as I couldn't have her kid around and take them to an activity because I was working.

She took offence that I couldn't understand that she couldn't take him herself because she was working. Why on earth does she think that I should take time off and earn less money to entertain her kid???

OK here it goes
When I was 21 I worked as a live in au pair in the South of England for a couple who had 4 school age children. It was quite a busy household, with school runs, cleaning, ironing, tea, washing up etc.
On top of this they were both registered as childminders, so I dropped their kids at school, plus the kids they were chilminding before and after school, and also I was the one looking after two toddlers until 6 o clock.The parents of these children were paying for a childminder. I had evenings off (after doing the washing up) and Sundays off ( after doing the weekly ironing). The weekly pay was 35 pounds, it was 15 year ago. They made a lot of money out of me. They went off on a holiday for two weeks leaving two of their children with me. Shortly after this i left, I still feel bad about not saying good bye to the kids
Looking back I am mad at myself for not saying anything and standing up for myself.

Breadpitt £10 for two printed sheets the cheeky sod !

Dh has a friend who only rings when he needs something. We are talking expensive tools, rather than a cup of sugar.

They used to be good friends and it's horrible to see dh go along with it as he wants a connection.

We sold a house some years ago and purchasers didn't want our carpets because they were going to install wood flooring throughout. As the carpets were quite new and very good quality we offered them free to my brother and gf who had just bought a flat. Brother was delighted. He turned up with a friend with a van and they, dh and I spent a hot and sweaty morning lifting, rolling and loading the carpets. Far too much for his small flat but he said he would take it all anyway. When it was all loaded db asked us where was a good restaurant locally as he wanted to take friend for a pint and a slap up meal to thank him for his help. We were not invited! Two weeks later db phoned to say that carpets looked great in flat and to smugly inform us that he had sold the excess carpet to the people in the flat below! We were not offered a share in his profits!

When I was about 22 my friend (F) and I lived in flats next door to each other, worked together and obviously shared many nights out. After my door shutting behind me a couple of times locking me out (and subsequently having to climb through the open top kitchen window and one time asking the young lad from upstairs to break in via the window to get back in) F said about me leaving a spare key with her which I was grateful for and happily did.

Anyway to cut a long story short we worked opposite shifts and I kept having the feeling that things had been moved in rooms in my house but they were small things so I dismissed it as not being possible. That is until one day I rang F from work for a natter to be TOLD (not even asked!) that she had used my keys to let herself in to borrow a lasagne dish and some food items. I wasn't happy at all but didn't want to appear unreasonable so I didn't actually say much in reply but immediately started making plans of how to get my keys back without causing issue.

Few weeks later I tried to ring her from work again and her phone kept ringing out. On the off chance I rang my house phone.......FOR F TO ACTUALLY ANSWER IT!!!!! Turns out she told me, that she had been letting herself in for weeks to watch a series on sky as she didn't have it nor did she want to pay for it.....but yeah using my electricity and using mine was fine! Needless to say my mum needed to 'borrow' my spare key after that so I got it back, although she did ask me regularly for a few months after that as to when she was getting 'her' key back.

This is the same friend who used to arrange nights out with our group to then stand at the bar and not order a drink 'as she was skint' knowing full well we'd pay all night for her.

If you ever went into rounds with her she would get draft lager on her round for you (despite what you asked for) on her round and double spirit and mixer on everyone else's round without fail. The best was when she bought her one round of the night (compared to everyone else having already bought 2-largish group), asking what everyone wanted, tottered off to the bar and come back distributing a £1 shot to each person-no appearance of the drink they had actually requested from her and no offer to buy another round for the rest of the night.

Another occasion I laid out the money for tickets and something else for her and another friend on the promise they'd pay me back when I saw them at that event. She picked me and other friend up in taxi on the way there, and as she was sat in the front paid the fare at the other end (other friend and I said we'd pay the taxi home to make it square as we'd all be sharing again). Got inside, walked up to the bar F turned to me and asked for the money I owed her for the taxi (£2.50 to be exact!), I told her she could take it off the £45 she owed me and could I have that since thats how I had planned to buy my drinks for the evening.

organon the issue seems to be that you don't like women. Maybe you need to have a good think about why that is.

Back in the 1980s I used to be a Cub Scout Leader. EVERY week we would have to take someone or other home ourselves after waiting for parents to come and collect their beloved child. I used to run the group immediately after I'd finished work, before I'd had anything to eat and I lived in a village about 8 miles away. Still expected to be a taxi service though. It ruined the enjoyment I had for it.

Another brazen request came after a friend of mine had a baby. Naturally, as a friend, I'd offered to look after him for short periods of time occasionally to give her a break. She took this to mean that I would become his primary carer form 9+ hours a day when she returned to work. For free. There were 2 sets of grandparents willing to share the burden too! But no, it had to be me because my kids were so 'nice'. DH was NOT keen as he worked shifts. I had 2 sons in Primary school and one in nursery so would be tied up with school runs throughout the day (I don't drive) so I asked her to supply a small pushchair and to cover costs such as food etc. For my services I would be charging £1 per hour. Her face when I gave her my detailed proposal was like I'd asked to be, you know, REASONABLY recompensed. I was still recovering from a Pulmonary Embolism a couple of years previously which she knew all about too. I was quite insulted that my friendship wasn't worth £1 an hour and a bit of consideration. She never spoke to me again! Her son was fine and his grandparents loved spending time with him.

Just say no folks.

I dont understand threads like this,once maybe twice to be taken the piss of.But when it becomes obvious why do you still put up with it.

When I worked for a small company I was next desk neighbours with a woman who used to pinch my expensive balm tissues. I moved the box to the other side of the desk and she would constantly ask myself and other people to move my box to her desk! I did point out that you could get "free" loo roll from the toilets, but no, she preferred my tissues!
I have a few health problems, mainly tiredness and aching joints. Doctors put it down to general stress etc. I go to a Woo practitioner (yes I know IwasBU). Woo says vegan-wheat free diet. So I buy fecking expensive bread and sandwich substitutes. Label it and keep it in the fridge. Woman demolishes bread and cheese/substitute meat within days. I try to object but she says "well you're supposed to share stuff in the communal kitchen, get some more it's delicious". I tell her where to get some, an how much it costs, and get "well I'm not paying that, that's too much!" she earnt twice as much as me, and her husband worked for the same firm so they shared transport costs!

Sometimes it isn't obvious how much you put up with until the last straw event... Then it suddenly all becomes clear that friendship normally has give and take, and you've been doing all the giving.

I helped a friend clear out their recently deceased family members flat. The family member turned out to be a hoarder. Just one example, there were two bookcase cupboards stuffed with books and boxes of magazines going back 20 years. We boxed them up and took them to recycling, moved the bookcases and found... Two floor-to-ceiling built in cupboards behind them stuffed with more magazines etc.

Any ways, I'd spent two weeks every evening going round after work, boxing up stuff, taking it to various recycling banks etc until 10 pm or even later. Of course you do this for a friend, that's what friends are for?
Another 'friend' went round once, for three hours one weekend and cleared one cupboard. turned out they were having an affair which later on explained a lot

My friend and their mother decided to throw a barbeque to thank people for all their help and support after the death. To which I wasn't invited. I heard them discussing it but no invite was issued and then the photos appeared on FB...

That was my last straw event. But there were lots of previous little moments like that, that didn't really add up to much until later on.

I suppose all the freeloaders have some redeeming points. Mine was absolutely lovely and I really enjoyed talking to her, but gradually she stopped reciprocating and just taking me for a ride.

Some way you expect it is just a lapse until you realise, it doesn't ever come to an end.

It is like with any relationship, you may be dead sure that you don't like what you see, but can't believe the person is a leach, because in the past she/he was lovely.

Put some cat food salad in the fridge for her Denty

Mine is not so extreme but still rankles..
DS2 then 6 had a school friend who had a very badly behaved younger bro age 3 who was always running off.
The mum was always trying to palm them off.
One day we went to the park and quite a few of the kids were playing in the trees just out of sight. The mum said to my DS1 (age 8) - '[her] DS2 wants to go with all the bigger boys - I can trust you to keep him safe, can't I'
I was so annoyed because DS1 is a very conscientious boy, and an adult was basically making it his responsibility to keep her child safe - and he was a boy renowned for running off, crossing roads etc
Was just after the time when all the kids at school had been told that Madeleine McCann had been kidnapped, as well.
I told her he could not be made responsible for the kids, so she got snarky and poor DS was quite upset and worried.

I didn't think of "vegan" catfood salad. Looking back, I wish I could of scraped out a vegan pate container and replaced the contents with sheba.
It's not the Mexican house thief league, but it does annoy me!

The other thing I remember is being 11 and put in charge of a bunch of 3-5 year olds at the family gathering. Getting told off because I didn't want to look after them anymore and wanting to read my comics!

Anything to do with my sister and her dog gets my back up dsis and her partner work shifts and are always out i knew when they got the dog they would be asking us my parents to watch it causes so much tension when she says they are off out and you wait for the last minute dogsitting request

A friend couldn't understand why I wouldn't give him my husband's pyjamas, as I was "getting rid of them anyway".

Yes, I was was clearing out my recently deceased husband's pyjamas, as I couldn't cope with looking at them because they reminded me how much he suffered near the end. After repeated requests, I had to ask him if he seriously thought I was going to be comfortable with the idea of someone else wearing my dear husband's pyjamas? I honestly think he still doesn't get it.

Before my lovely DMil died she said she wanted DBil to have her savings, as he was a bit hard up at the time. Dh and I didn't mind in the slightest.

After she died we kept reminding Fil of DMils request, but he never got round to it. DBil and DSil then went on to have a baby. DSil doesn't work and they do find things a bit of a struggle.

Fil was diagnosed with depression last year. He then stopped driving, shopping, cleaning his house etc. We've between us spent the last year ferrying him about, cooking, shopping, cleaning, taking him to doctors, hospital appointments, arranging care workers, social workers, ringing the crisis team, visiting him in hospital, feeding and looking after his animals, collecting him for dinner every week, etc, etc.

Turns out that he hadn't forgotten about DMils savings. When she died he emptied her accounts and kept them for himself. It was somewhere in the region of £20,000.

DBil works all the hours God sends to keep a roof over their heads as well as running about for Fil. If they'd had the money he could have spent a bit more time at home with DSil and the baby and things wouldn't have been so difficult for them.

Fil has always been a narcissistic self centred prat but I think this takes the biscuit.

I married abroad and my sister who by then was a well paid professional in a material role, said she didn't want to come because it was expensive and she would get bored so my parents paid 2 sets of longhaul flights for her and a friend to come to it.

They arrived to the airport with 2 HUGE bags each, so we had to do the 40 miles ride to the house twice (160 miles), to ensure they were reunited with their luggage, then they started complaining they were bored, but we couldn't do much because they spent far too much time getting ready to go out (2 hrs average, twice a day!). On the day of the wedding they demanded to have their hair done before me, then took two hours to sort themselves up. My friends arrived an hour before the wedding and helped me to get ready, then sister got angry and started crying because she wanted to help me get ready and my friends had took that from her (she was applying her make up locked in the bathroom through all the time).

Since they were so bored, my parents paid for her and friend to spend a couple of days in Barcelona (flights and hotel).

They both really had a bloody holiday without spending a penny. To this day, I cannot stay at my parents and open the door of the fridge without sister telling me that I need to get my own stuff.

Her leach of a friend is not in good terms with her either, apparently she liked the styling of my wedding so much that she asked if she could see the album of my wedding and time after she left, my sister realised that she had stolen at least 10 photographs of it, of the same stuff she identically replicated for her wedding. Unfortunately for my mum, the photos she took of me with my rose bouquet, or coming out of the church walking over rosemary and petals, or of all of us together in my FIL's boat are lost forever.

Managerial not material (thinking of that it may be the same)

Alpaca, did you say anything to those awful people?

Poverty
So sorry.

A friend couldn't understand why I wouldn't give him my husband's pyjamas

That has to take the biscuit.
So sorry for your loss.
And pyjamas! he could buy some in Primarni for a fiver.
Real shocker