aibu son being bullied by friends gran

[upsetmum2]

Hi just came her to rant i'm really upset,my ds has started walking to schoool on his own on his way he calls in for his friend.Yesterday his other friends gran came out and asked them to walk up with her grandson.
The boys waited a while then the boy's mum who my son always walks with told them to get a move on so they weren't late.
My ds arrives at school and the gran went up to him and told him off for walking off without her grandson and then told my ds he was not invited to her bbq.
My ds wasn't bothered as he knew nothing of the bbq.what i'm disgusted with that she chose to pick on a 9 year old bully him by excluding him from something all his friends were going to,incould tell my ds was upset as he could here all the kids playing in the street.
Aibu to give her what for my dh is equally repulsed as she has form from excluding other kids in the past,but thinks the best thing is to ignore her.What would you do?

She's not a bully but she's an idiot.
Reassure your son that what he did was the right thing to do, he has no obligation to wait on someone else and be late for school as a result.
If she keeps on going on about it, I'd have a chat about it with her and explain her, that you brought your son up to be responsible and come to school in time and you trust him to walk on his own. If she's not capable of having her Grandson ready for school in time, she needs to take responsibility.
You are OK. Your son is OK. She's a moron.

Not bullying and you'd look ridiculous if you contacted the school about this. Your son was told off unfairly. It happens. I'd just let it go, tbh.

What a rude woman!

Surely it's her responsibility (or his parents) to get the boy to school.

Might be different if she was ready to go and saw the boys and asked if it was okay if her grandson walked with them too.

She's just hacked off that she had to make the effort herself and took that out on a child.

I'll call her on her rudeness and nastiness but in terms of the bbq, she can invite who she likes. I'd just have one the same day for your son and his friend (and anyone else who'd rather yours than hers)

I don't think you would be ridiculous by approaching the school. I'm all for the "it takes a village to raise a child" approach, but this was on school property where a child should not to be subject to rants from random people especially when he hasn't done anything wrong.

I can remember our school issuing a letter to parents telling them that approaching another child about any issue whilst they are in the school playground would not be tolerated. Any issues adults have with children in the playground should be reported to the school office/headmistress where they would be dealt with appropriately.

And I'm sure if the grandmother took that issue into the school office she would, quite rightly, have been given short shrift.

Hope they don't get confused with doggers!

YANBU. It's not your DS's job to ensure this woman's grandson is escorted to school.

I would speak to woman, explain what happened and mention that you don't appreciate her telling your son off, especially as he waited 10 minutes for your grand son and it nearly made him late for school.

Don't say anything, it's an early lesson in life for your ds that it's best to ignore or avoid batshit crazy certain people.

It sounds as if he's a really nice, sensible boy. If she ever asks again he should say that they can't wait because they will be late.

Hi quick update. So the gran came to see me , she was really upset and brought a toys rus gift card for my ds to say sorry. She told me that she flew off the handle as a member of her close family had been diagnosed the day before with cancer. She was really apologetic.
I will explain all to my ds when he gets in from school. I feel really bad for the gran now u never expected that

Blimey, what a shock.

Nothing wrong with the Gran asking the boys to walk together, they shouldn't have to wait such that they might be late though.

Maybe they'll walk together in future?

Good that she apologised.

It doesn't take it away or even excuse it, but at least she acknowledged that she was wrong.

I've arranged with her if the boys aren't there by a certain time they've just to carry into school, I emphasised how anxious my ds was about being late and to respect us on this

This is not bullying.
When you see her make it clear what your instruction was to your son. Be pleased that your son listened to you and not 'gansta gran'
I love that you are behind a bush watching thats hilarious.

This isn't bullying

Why didn't they tell the M that the GM had asked them to wait?

Doesn't sound to me like you have the whole story

OP updated

the boys shd choose for themselves who they want to meet up with and be with. The gran stepped over several lines . The mum who told the boys to not be late shd speak to her neighbour .

RTFT.

Great outcome