To not want to share every single thing...

[Uncoping]

With my 2 year old hellraiser.

My water, my makeup, my pasta, my (occasional) wine, my shoes.

She wants EVERYTHING!

Sitting eating some much looked forward to pasta and I've had to hand over half the bowl even though she's just eaten a full kids cottage pie & 2 bananas

She just looks at me completely bewildered and a little bit annoyed when I often occasionally steal a chicken dipper or a smiley face off her plate!!

I think it's important to teach children to respect your stuff, even your food...sometimes anyway. If you can manage to remove dangerous things from their hands, you can apply the same determination to removing anything from them.

My 2yo is exactly the same, I have to pretend to do his make up when I do mine, he likes my hair stuff and shoes too but the food sharing really is the worst. Last week he ate my entire bowl of banana porridge while I was changing my 4mo nappy, he's even started to eat my nuts and my veg smoothies It's really hard to say no, firstly because he's cute and cheeky and secondly because I'm teaching him about sharing and telling him how nice it is to share.

She wants to be you You're her main point of reference for everything, so that includes food.
DD would always want to eat my lunch over her own and it was the only mealtime we had when it was just the two of us. It's how she got onto eating salad I just had to make sure I had stuff in reserves so I could scoff it out of eyesight.

Totes yy it's true. My DS is a ringer for that cat out of Shrek and he bloody knows it. He does the big eyed love me look and it plays my maternal heartstrings like a Stradivarius.

I luffs you Dezza, you is vair, vair funny xxx

I'm often pissed so could be wrong...

Totes I laughed out loud at that and almost woke DS haha!

My DD is 3 and is exactly the same. She's magically hungry when it's time for me to eat (which is usually after sorting out everybody else and feeding the baby, so she's already eaten). Even though we eat the exact same things. Although if she ever refuses a type of veg/fruit I just eat one in front of her and she scoffs them from that point on lol!

I can say no to her, I do if it's chocolate late on and she catches me hiding in the fridge But I don't see the harm in sharing and in fairness she does always ask me if I'd like something off her plate (positive this is so she can say "well you shared mine")

If she has eaten a large amount of food already then unless you want an obese child say no. If she has finished her dinner get her down from the table. Saying no to wine is easy.

I can resist ALL attempt from my kids to steal my food. I don't share food like Joey.

It's all mine and mine alone.

I think that comes from growing up in a full house on a budget!

I just share with him (18m) and trust him to regulate his own appetite but it is funny/ annoying sometimes. He's never been very keen on roast potatoes so last time I made them I made DS his own portion of boiled new potatoes. Of course that was when he realised that he prefers roast after all.

I do worry I shouldn't let him have things off my plate but then I'm trying to encourage sharing. Gah who knows?!

I never tried to encourage eating from other people's plates as that isn't how most people eat. You put food from a communal dish on to your own plate. So if pasta it is shared but the sharing out comes from the pan not your plate. Once on your plate it is yours. Keep some in the pan if you don't know how much they'll eat. The only time the kids had food from our plates was restaurants if we knew they wouldn't eat a whole portion then they got empty plate and a portion of ours and we ordered extra so plenty to go round

It's not encouraging sharing. It's inciuraging inappropriate invasion of people's space and that they have a right to touch and use anything they please. Give small kids some credit to have the intelligence to learn sharing when appropriate and respect for other people's belongings and meals.

You share snacks but it's rude to grab food off peoples plates. Simple but important message.

My DD was like this.

When she was 2 I would prepare a large double sized meal on one plate. It was never an issue to me. She was always very close.

My DD is 16 now and we still have a very close relationship, It's usually me borrowing her stuff.
DD has a great bunch of close friends but she still loves time with me, in fact we are planning a holiday to Greece this summer, DS and OH will be working and can't get the time off work.
DD and I are secretly pleased, as we get a whole 10 days to spend in each other's company.

She no longer eats of my plate!

If I'm making/buy something to eat I just do extra now as 22mo DD will always want some. I'd rather it this way and she tries and experiences a variety of things than have a picky eater tbh. It means she has her own portion so isn't usually begging for food off my plate. We say no to trying things (gin) that aren't suitable, but she's ok with that. The demanding the same has only been a problem when I was craving sushi earlier in my pregnancy: I was having to buy double, it was an expensive craving...

I second the "use it to your advantage " advice. To get her to widen her scope of foods she will eat, particularly vegetables, you just prepare them for yourself (a,onside any food you are both eating such as pasta) , tell her it's one of your favourites - grown ups like it but she probably won't. Be reluctant to share because "I don't want it wasted". Then be willing to put some on a small plate for her, be prepared to hear "I do like it mummy, I do".

My three are all now in their 20s and frequently shocked at how limited their friend's eating is. One dd used to cook a full Sunday lunch for her uni housemates - they'd buy the food and she would cook. So make sure you also let her help with the cooking or at least watch while you do it! I grew up in a very food conservative northern working class home - I didn't meet a pepper until I went to uni I only learned to extend my own eating range when I lived in a huge student house and we did shared cooking. The most exotic thing we ate at home was Vesta beef curry (dehydrated - you added water to a muesli-like mix!) ) which my dad introduced me to

Many years ago DS2 was whizzing round the sitting room in his baby walker when we were having a tray tea! My late DH was eating black pudding (I hate it!) and popped a tiny piece on ds2's tray as he went past. This was consumed very quickly and then ds2 scooted back reached up and took the whole piece of BP off the plate and devou
red it! DH was I was [vom!!!]

It goes on. My DDs are 16 & 20. Immediately I shed something warm and comfortable like a fleece one of them will be wearing it.

I agree totally about expanding tastes.

I remember DS toddling about at 18 months- he had already eaten, and OH and I had made a big seafood stew. we were eating it on a low table when lo came up and started digging in.
He was a picture watching him rip mussels out of their shells and stuff them in his face, chewing on squid tentacles, he loved it. That was a lesson to OH and I = we had assumed this was grown ups food- DS thought differently, licking garlickly seafood liquor from his fingers.

My kids are older now, and still love seafood, but have a passion for all types of food, they are often surprised too when they see how limited their friends' eating preferences are.

We have had a number of special birthday meals and Valentine's lunches in a nice restaurant with a happy toddler munching on the pate on toast in a high chair (but I really love it)

This is why we either eat the same or eat after they are in bed.

I'm with ILostItInTheEarlyNineties

That's how how encouraged ds to eat when ill or post-illness. Sharing food.
Use it to your advantage. Such as getting her to eat pasta she supposedly doesn't like.

Tbf as an adult if we are eating out i often eye up another plate thinking oo that looks nice its only weird when the plate is on another table